Guys say they want a independent woman but they go for the opposite? Why?

[btbc92]

Simple: Because those types of men have no respect for women period. That I had to learn the hard way. They like insecure women they can control, use and abuse. Want the prove? I'll break it down for you:

1. They say they want to take care of a woman and want her to be dependant on him. So they avoid independent women. Here is what really happens: She is basically used sexually, emotionally, and he doesn't put much effort into her. If she starts demanding or asking for anything more than what he is willing to do, he starts getting upset. A man is supposed to be a leader, provider, protector, and head. They simply don't WANT to the way they need to. And in the end, they expect her to be a SLAVE while telling her what a woman is supposed to do for him. A woman naturally has a desire to help, love, and please her man. These men just want to take advantage of her for her own self desires. Not to benefit them both. Some may say that, but in the end, they get the chunk you barely get any or nowhere near half of what you deserve. Many women, unless naturally like that, get that way because the men they get are or were that way.

2. Any guy that says they want an independent woman really doesn't. What they saying is this:

1. Pay your own things.
2. Pay your own bills.
3. Get your own clothes.
4. Purchase food when needed.
5. Do everything yourself.

Just include me when it comes to sex, what your finances are, do everything for me. None of you. Simply like this. You take care of EVERYTHING yourself, get your own stuff. Don't ask him for jack, do it all for him. You know, because of "equality". The message is BE INDEPENDENT, but not too INDENPENT where you don't need or want him. Scratch that: Don't need him. But want him. Don't want him, he no longer wants you. They don't know what they say they want, YET we don't know what we want. They love women who don't know themselves. They cannot stand it if you are certain of what you want and need.

3. They go for the opposite because they have nothing to offer you and refuse to. You make them uncomfortable with their lack of being a real man. Meaning. They don't want to provide for YOU, because you don't psychologically match what they want. The women they get what they want or can't emotionally handle or want to take care of them. They don't know how to love, nor do they know how to work with you as a partner or team. See, they don't want a farm girl, but they love the farm girl look and mentality. Can't handle the "farm work". 🤦‍♀️

They don't want to be in the business sector, but they don't want to go to school for an interest they want either. Not even vocational. 😡

[Alyssa11]

I think they mean they like a woman to feel like she needs a man in her life, but also her life can’t revolve around the mans existence. She needs some of her own things going for her. Her own interests and hobbies etc.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay... fair question. Here's how I interpret it:
I want a woman who thinks independently. I want a woman who has her own goals and dreams. I want a woman who has her own style. I want a woman who is economically self-sufficient and knows how to take care of herself and survive on her own.

None of those things, in my opinion, are incompatible with being in a relationship. When you begin dating a man, don't overthink it and don't stress out. He's basically just a best friend with a penis. (Whether you get to see or touch that penis or not -- due to religion, for example -- is really irrelevant, because you still know that it's there. His maleness is the evidence.). If you have a friend, does that make you any less independent? Do they take away your individual identity? I certainly hope not! And a man shouldn't, either. Just enjoy the companionship and savor the experience. If you fall in love, ... Let It Happen! Don't hold yourself back because of fear. Yes, your life may become intangled with another human being. But that's what relationships are all about! And I don't think it's a bad thing. I think it's lovely and beautiful!

[MCheetah]

1. Not that many guys say they "want a independent woman."

2. Being an independent woman doesn't mean being a man-hating bitch like every loser wanna-be-strong-and-fierce feminist seems to think nowadays (not saying OP is this).

3. Make a man feel needed by being a feminine woman, showing kindness and compassion towards him (and others and yourself) and being there when he needs you the most. All things becoming more and more rare with women nowadays. Also, don't be a feminist/cunt.

4. Be upfront with a man (as women rarely ever are) and if he still asks you for something you stated you're not willing to give, you can freely leave him, at that point. I think both genders need to be upfront and honest and stop wasting each other's time; women with the mind-games and mind-reader-expectation bullsh*t, and men with the tricks to get laid.

[DrunkAss]

I still stuck with the independent and definitely preferred those. Though what do you conceive of as independent? The last thing I'm talking about is financial independence. I could take care of her that way. The number of things I'm talking about are mostly emotional independence and social independence and independence in terms of interests/passions.

[Anonymous]

Same reason why this hypocrism exists

Men-
In front of others :"I hate sluts. Those bitches need to die"
When a girl posts a slutty pic: "Yes babe yes SHOW ME YOUR ASS🤤🤤"

Men-
In front of others:" Pff she is fat and wants a man to provide for her. Lazy bitch"
When he sees a career woman:"That feminist bitch. All she cares about is money. No man will marry you"

Men-
In front of others:"I just want a loyal woman. All women these days are cheaters"
When a girl posts about how she cheated on her boyfriend: *Men likes the post
"Wow. That's so hot. Bet you enjoyed it"

[jasco]

Don't get me wrong i want a women who can handle themselves but i don't want a woman do everything for me. I like doing work from time to time, I like doing things around the house, i don't want a maid but at the same time, i dont want someone who just works all day

[worldscolide]

Honestly the ones that say they are strong independent women are also the ones that are on state aid, have multiple children with multiple different fathers, Receiving child support from all of them. And 9 times out of 10 they are insufferable and not worth being around.

[Anonymous]

I dont want an independent woman i think men want to be able to live some sort of life without her being too clingy. It think that is what they mean by independent.

Other guys will just tell females what they want to hear.

Yes I support strong independent women
Yes I support feminism
Yes
Yes Yes Dear

[TremorJay]

It's obvious. They don't actually know what they want

[bamesjond0069]

No. Most guys dont say they want an independent woman. Thats dumb.

[Waldoe]

we like to Win... we like Strong, just not Stronger... hehehe

[krin_m]

I don't. I like independent women. No emotional clinginess for me!

[SirJohn42]

Because they are to immature to know what they want. Or feel they want.

[AmeerX]

Can you explain what you mean by those terms?

[COMMODOREII]

What would you not be willing to give?

[NorthwestRider]

Guys are like that are stupid and hypocrites

[KrakenAttackin]

Few guys say they want an "independent" woman.

[SavageGirl101]

Cause the know they can't handle one

[lalalo5]

they just want a maid