Long distance relationships?

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When in a long distance relationship at what point should you start to share a bed with your partner (for sleeping) in order to save money on hotel costs etc. For the both of you.

I'd like to get the female perspective on this. As I'm not someone to be presumptuous, it would be for convenience and would be a fair while before I'd be comfortable progressing to a more intimate aspect of a relationship..

I would really appreciate some help as I don't have any dating experience and it does make me anxious not knowing. I also hope what I've said makes sense.

Answer 1

whatdoyouwantt | 230 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I let my ldr boyfriend sleep in my bed first time he came over. He visited me after half a year though. He already spent a lot of money for the ticket and since he was my boyfriend, i’d feel weird to ask him to rent a hotel room. If someone did that to me, I would never come again. Are we a couple or strangers?

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Well so far in lockdown we have been talking everyday. For 2 months now. I know if I visited I would pay for a hotel and if she was the one who visited. Id offer to pay for one or I would sleep on the sofa and let her sleep in my bed.

I'd just want them to feel. comfortable and not jumping to far in advance.. also the idea of sleeping. in the same bed early on does make. me. very nervous.

Fortunately they aren't to far in terms. of. distance but still far enough to raise the question.
whatdoyouwantt

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Well then id say it’s better if one sleeps on sofa. At least both are in same house. Thats how i’d do it
Asker

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Okay thank you I appreciate the help. Just got no ideas and I do want to be as considerate as I possibly can.

I was wondering if when you first let him sleep in your bed was there anything that made you neverous or anything like that?
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whatdoyouwantt

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No nothing made me nervous. I was actually happy to have him near me finally. But again each story is different. Lol do what feels best for you and where you are most comfortable. If you think its too much, you can really sleep in same house just one on couch another in bed. And if you’ll want to cuddle you can still do so xD but if one is in hotel its kinda hard and lonely xD again this is just my opinion
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I get that my thoughts for that are one cause I have anxiety issues and the other it's about being respectful to me and showing that I'm not being presumptuous or anything like that. As to me it's important to take things slow.

Answer 2

Asker

Well so far in lockdown we have been talking everyday. For 2 months now. I know if I visited I would pay for a hotel and if she was the one who visited. Id offer to pay for one or I would sleep on the sofa and let her sleep in my bed.

I'd just want them to feel. comfortable and not jumping to far in advance.. also the idea of sleeping. in the same bed early on does make. me. very nervous.

Fortunately they aren't to far in terms. of. distance but still far enough to raise the question.

Answer 3

whatdoyouwantt

Well then id say it’s better if one sleeps on sofa. At least both are in same house. Thats how i’d do it

Answer 4

Asker

Okay thank you I appreciate the help. Just got no ideas and I do want to be as considerate as I possibly can.

I was wondering if when you first let him sleep in your bed was there anything that made you neverous or anything like that?

Answer 5

whatdoyouwantt

No nothing made me nervous. I was actually happy to have him near me finally. But again each story is different. Lol do what feels best for you and where you are most comfortable. If you think its too much, you can really sleep in same house just one on couch another in bed. And if you’ll want to cuddle you can still do so xD but if one is in hotel its kinda hard and lonely xD again this is just my opinion

Answer 6

Asker

I get that my thoughts for that are one cause I have anxiety issues and the other it's about being respectful to me and showing that I'm not being presumptuous or anything like that. As to me it's important to take things slow.

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