Would you date a friend's ex?

[OlderAndWiser]

If you ask the friend and they say "yes," they probably actually want to say "no" but yield to some internal pressure and say "yes." But, eventually, the friend will probably develop some jealousy and you will lose that friend.

You also are taking a chance on the ex wanting to date you only to get some revenge on their ex and it may be a meaningless relationship but it may also be hurtful when you eventually realize their true motivations.

TLDR: bad idea!

[BUNroaster]

Yep I would. One girl was literally getting married in a couple weeks. We kinda talked back in HS. She was my best friend's first but she always had eyes on me too. Had an awkward catch up day with the boys cuz she decides to join in. My friend's completely moved on and tbh all I can think about is how much he used to brag about fucking her ass and I literally had the hardest time concentrating on conversations. She knew and had texted me twice while we were all at Chili's "hey, wanna get out of here?" "I wanna talk". I got up she no way in hell did not catch a good glimpse of my stiffy. I walked out of the bathroom and noticed her right there by the door and completely ignored her. She says "hey" and I keep walking cuz dont want this kinda shit in my life but at the se time wanted to fuck the shit out of her. So, I did lock eyes and smirk. She took to it and leaned in but jolted back, she jolted back and I acted disgusted and wasn't mentioned again and I finally could manage my bone so we were good

[Kimonono]

I did, but when I started talking to him I immediately contacted her and talked about it. I made clear that if she was uncomfortable in any way, shape or form I wouldn't continue. She was fine with it, she was happy with her boyfriend and no longer held any feelings toward him. She has been the most supportive of us two dating and my shoulder to cry on when we broke up.

They only had a short fling of a few months though, I can imagine it would be different if your friend had an actual long term relationship.

[Vickymoore9]

Definitely never if they was serious in an actual relationship and loved or really liked each other. I just think it’s tacky to do if your a real friend you wouldn’t consider it. I have had sex with guys friends have hooked up with. But it was more like they said he’s a good bootie call and suggested him.

[Account]

No. It is not just the fact that it is horrible.
It is also that our taste in men is completely different.

[coachTanthony]

No but if it's been 10 years I can't imagine who would give a fuck.

[ShadezMcgee]

I personally wouldn't, no. Even if the breakup is clean, that would feel like stabbing my boy in the back.

I remember seeing the joke rules of man law. Regarding breakups, if the girl breaks up with the guy, she is off limits for 3 months. If the guy breaks up with her, waiting period to pick her up is one week.

[0112358]

Depends why they broke up, and how things are now.

My exes, some i'd warn friends off, others i'd say go for it, and if asked, say why we didn't work out, but maybe they're different. I liked my exes, none are bad people, its just about compatibility.

[MeghanL]

Hypothetically if I were still single I would be leery about it.

In all the cases I'm personally familiar with her ex is a 14-karat SOB & I wouldn't want to be in the same ZIP code as he is. Most likely I would only be a tool for payback of some kind.

Besides that, there would be the underlying tension & ultimately that impacts the relationship - either with him or my friend.

[MasterOfReality]

Depends on how much time has gone by after the break up, and how my friend still feels about her. If she’s my buddys ex, I probably know her well enough to know if it would be worth it at all or not.
Exception- My buddy Drew’s wife Lea... If y’all split and she gives me the slightest hint, it’s on buddy... haha!

[nicdaddy]

Yes and have but not like a really close friend or best friend because more than likely it'd ruin the whole thing friendship and the resentment and awkwardness would eventually become more than either could handle so the new found love would die aswell. Peace

[djmzes]

No I won't

[awebee]

Under mutually agreeable circumstances... sure. I wouldn't partake in any situation that would cause hurt or resentment.
Even though it's happening to me.
My buddy dated my ex girl n didn't give a fuck. I'm glad I was able to refuse an ex girl of his getting with me.. just for a shallow sence of retribution.. not my style..

[Little_Bumblebee]

If I really liked him I would talk with my friend about whether it was okay with them or not.

If it wasn't, I wouldn't date them.

[CurlyGirl42]

maybe.. but should be way in the past for both people to have evolved further away from each other on a romantic level.. Like at least 5 years and more like 10+ years

[TruthBringer]

Absolutely not. Out of all the women I can get, why would I go with someone my friend had a lay with? This could also be seen as a form of disloyalty from the friend's side.

[JamieLoves]

I have... if I were still friends with them, I’ve actually asked my friend if they’re mind or if it would bother them! They did the same for me.
Once I said , that it would bother me and he didn’t. Another time, a friend asked and I said , it would bother me too. We respected each other.

[JHNS98]

At this point I would, but the general answer would be that it would depend on how their relationship ended. I

dk how many of my guy friends actually have girlfriends now... I only know a couple (pun intended)

[Screenwriter]

If you're close to your friend, this could be problematic.
I'd say find your SO farther away. Seems a bit lazy.

[monkeynutts]

I have had an open relationship with a girl who was also seeing one of my mates, that went on till she wanted to be with me, because I am a monogamist. It was strange lasted 3 years, we are kinda still mates.

[Elliegirl]

If I really liked him and my friend said it was okay to date her ex, I would. If my friend wasn’t cool with it, I wouldn’t.

[curtsey]

Depends why they ended up breaking up and how my friend feels about it.
If it was an argument or something similar which lead to a breakup I wouldn't date them
If they just didn't suit each other and broke up peacefully then I'd wait some time and ask my friend first before making any moves

[ThePolishKnight37]

If the friend was an ex also, Maybe. But if you are still close it could cause issues, unless it has been discussed and they have no issue. But hidden issues always arise, so NO.

[Hurlyburly]

My boyfriend does 🤷‍♀️ that's not really a big deal. My ex was the one who encouraged him to hit on me in the first place.

[humanearth]

I did and it was a mistake. I see why he dumped her. That bitch was crazy. (This was 30 years ago, long before my wife)

[pigoat]

Ew no

I knew them when they were being an obnoxious bitch to my friend

What a turn off

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It would depend. Who the friend is, how serious is everything etc. I wouldn't do it if it were wrong

[LZPanzer]

As long as their break up was civil. I don't see a problem.

[Ripper_E]

Unlikely. If I did, I would never without talking to them first. I'm not losing a friend over a girl.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes, have done and a mate married one of my ex’s (which at first was strange).

[Tjsmoove]

no i wouldn't that's breakin the man code i wouldn't even bang my friend's ex unless i knew that specific flame was dead and burried and even then i'd run it by my friend and at that point either he accepts it or not

[Jjpayne]

I would but openly. I would let them know. As long as they were ok with it. If they strongly opposed, id take that into consideration

[exitseven]

When I was younger I would never do that. Now I like to think I am more mature about certain things.

[888theGreat]

depends on what happened. If he cheated on her , why not? Not her fault. I probably would not be friends with him after that anyway. If she cheated on him, then no. If it was a mutual breakup, sure.

[katiesmuff]

Under the right circumstances it should be perfectly fine to do so.

[just_a_potato]

No if they are actually a friend I care about, I'm not gonna do that to them. If it was a long time ago maybe.

[Floppy2112]

Depends on the friend and the ex and the situation it was left in. If the friend is cool with it (not likely), then sure.

[AydenHazor]

That depends, how long ago was it and how does the friend feel about it?

[MannMitAntworten]

Probably not. Mostly because I have never been interested in any of my friends’ exes.

[es20490446e]

If a true friend didn't like her, most likely I won't like her too.

[Twalli]

Depends on how long ago they broke up and how bad of one it is. Amicable break ups require almost no time while extremely bad ones may prevent it from ever happening.

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on when they dated and how serious it was and why they broke up.

[LogicalGal123]

Yes, but out of respect, make sure they are cool with it, over the ex, and if they end the relationship mutually.

[JoshMacDonald]

I would put distance between myself and a friend’s ex. However, let’s say circumstances lead to us meeting up later and we hit it off, then why not?

[whatdoyouwantt]

Only if I wanted a revenge but obv not if they were best buddies lol

[Diamold]

I would
If they broke up for good and moved on
But i would speak to my friend before making it official

[msbrightness]

If she's my wife and she married him and I had to make friends with him first

[SenseiSeptred]

That depends on who their previous relationship person is, and why the relationship ended.

[Sheyhoney]

Nope. If she’s an acquaintance maybe but if she’s my friend I could never. It feels like a form of betrayal

[Leavesbound]

NOPE! Not unless he says "Maybe you'll have better luck with her if you want her" or something like that.

[Just_call_me_Levi]

If she's the one, probably? But doubt I can look at a friend's ex as "the one" any time soon.

[jerdanro]

Maybe if they dated for a month years ago. But never if they were serious.

[OddBeMe]

Why and how! Actually no. Well... depends on the friend. And the lady...

[prakhindev92]

Sure , x is always x , if my friend don't have objection sure

[Harleyguy]

I have yes. But it wasn’t a serious relationship. If it was a serious serious one. I wouldn’t. And he was also ok with it.

[annie6815]

No, that’s a girl code. That would be an awful, horrible thing to do.

[BlackPrince1]

Only if the break up was not hurtful and they were on good terms.

[rebeliouse]

@WowwGirl
ye why not :D

even better if get to bed her :D

[SamKishere]

No I would feel like a really shitty person if I did

[Jmmmfi4]

Highly doubt it. Maybe if they were both on good terms and aware of it.

[JackSmy]

NEVER, unless she set us up, together!!

[Pete671]

Yes, at least you'd know a lot about them, what flowers to buy etc,

[ayomanwya]

That’s the dumbest thing I ever heard... that’s just as bad as dating your sibling’s ex. Never in a billion years

[Phoenix98]

Been there done that.