Would you rather date someone 20 years older or younger than you?

[ohshee]

Go to 16 and a half almost 17 I went out with the lady that was about 42 quite a while then I went out with the a lady that was 32 and then I don't remember if she was 44 or 45 but another lady and I went out with another one and she was in her thirties and I wouldn't change a thing yeah they're as old as them. And look at women my own age or older it seems like nowadays they are homebodies the roundabout way I'm going with younger smart confident happy intelligent and have a beautiful heart, hello beautiful Within yeah I definitely younger

[IronLady6354]

I have an interesting perspective. I'm happily married to an awesome guy who 16 years younger than me. He's a great husband, great stepdad, and great dad to the 2 kids we've had together. However, the age gap wasn't an issue for us largely because he lacked many of the traits that make dating younger men difficult. He was very mature for his age (so we matched in maturity) and he was a college grad with a good job (so I was never a "sugar mama"). The kids thing also wasn't an issue because I always wanted more kids (only reason why I didn't is because of my ex). I was also able to, but even if I wasn't he said he'd be happy to adopt.
There are major perks in being with a much younger guy. He's got a lot more energy, lasts longer, and has a rocking body. However, I still would have much rather dated the typical man 20 years older than me than 20 years younger than me. The reason it worked out for me and my husband is because he's much more the exception than the rule.

[Screenwriter]

Significantly older or younger seems problematical to me. What do you have in common? What cultural memories, etc?

Five years one way or the other is about normal for me. I like younger men and always have. We seem more suited to each other. But, I've dated a few years older.

My general thing, I want someone with energy and verve! Into life and living and enjoying themselves. Nothing is so boring as to be "taken out to dinner." Please.

Let's spin the frisbee on the riverfront. Play some volleyball. Go duck hunting, go fishing, biking, walking. Anything but be stuck indoors.

[TheSpaceGnome]

20 years younger is 15, 20 years older is 55, so no on both accounts, but since you said ignore the 20 year part of the question, it would depend.


i feel like i would get along best with a nerd born between 1984 and 1996, so at the time if writing this. they would be anywhere from 25 to 37. and in ten years they would be 35 to 37, but the 1984-1996 thing would still be applicable. Someone any older or younger than that i don't think i'd able to relate to. Had being a nerd been destigmatized in the mid 1980s instead of the mid 1990s, id have said 1976 to 1996.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Older, yes. Younger, no.
I've had some brief relationships with women who were 10 years my senior, to 20 wouldn't be too much of a stretch for me.

[Account]

I'd much rather date people close to my own age to be honest.

[OlderAndWiser]

Well, let's see. . . I'm 66 years old, so my choices are to date someone 46 or 86? Tough decision!

[razelove]

Neither, make it ten years and I'd go either way, there is no interest on my end in someone who is 54, or on the flip side 14, just, eww. 44 or 24, sure, sounds great. It would depend more on which either offers me, just looks aren't enough, what do you offer me now and going into the future? Love, companionship, money, what do I/we get out of each other and contribute to the relationship as a whole?

[DJB72]

If I were single again I'd consider dating up to 5 years older than me but I'd more likely go for someone younger.

I'm a bit concerned that in a year's time someone 20 years younger than me would be 30 though. Like f*ck me - where did the last 30 years go?

[rxm_bxl]

20 years younger would make me a paedophile, lmao. So 20 years older at this point in time. When I'm 42 however, I wouldn't make a little boy toy thannggg.

[Drumlin2001]

Would I rather date a 19 yr old or a 59 year old? 19 yr old. Wouldn't be ideal, not sure how we'll they would adapt to my kids.
My current girlfriend is 4 years older, it's not an issue. If I were single I would date into 45, otherwise ideally probably down to 30.

[SirJohn42]

Depends I like older women because they are experienced. a lot of fun to hold conversations and the knowledge they hold.

But like younger women because of their youthful looks. I picked younger because I can
relate more with them. They make me feel young and wanted.

[MannMitAntworten]

I’ve been both the older and the younger. The last older was a then retired 60 year old runway model who like myself never married nor ever had children. She talked about politics far too much to be exciting.


The last younger woman I dated was 26 at the time. Best damn relationship I ever had. Thing is, it wasn’t the age that made this so, just that we were at least in the moment on the same page and headed in the same direction. That’s the part that makes the difference.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Older, younger is so damned annoying. Tried dating guys who were younger than me & it just wasn't my speed.

Plus the salt & pepper look is SO sexy!

[AydenHazor]

I don't really have a preference, I've had people assume I'm dating people 20 years older and 12 years younger than me, she, while I don't happen to be dating either of those women, both are absolutely beautiful both physically and in personality and any man would be lucky to date them.

[tbutts]

In my experience and I am only young (25), whenever I have been on dates or met with girls who are younger than me I can tell there is such a large immaturity gap, I just simply hate it. There have been girls I match with on tinder and have been on dates with and even if they are interested and there isn't an awkward moment, I end up getting put off by their immaturity.

[menina]

I couldn't date someone 20 years younger than me, that would make me a pedophile.
But based on your update I would prefer to date someone older. Even tough my sister thinks I should date someone younger.😂

[snackthatsmilesback]

Older. Nothing against 1 year olds, but 40 year olds can be sexy.

[Skankhunt]

Neither. I'm 31, so that means I'm dating someone who is 11 years old. If I date someone older than I am, that mean she would be 51. 51 is too old for me, of cours love knows no age, butt still.

My range is 10 years older than me or 5 years younger than me. I like women who are mature. Very young girls like 18 years old are too immature to me.

[TacosRAwesome]

Re older.. maybe if they don't have a parental vibe.
Re younger - maybe if I'm old enough that they're at least over 22

[InfobotLives]

I had to pick younger because I'm over 100yrs old and I'm not into corpses

[Stevefiveo]

I'm 50 so obviously 20 years younger is way better than 20 years older. But back in the day, I wouldn't mind dating someone older. When I was 18, I was dating a 28 year old.

[ImSparkly]

I just married a little over 20 older, but I consider myself an old soul to begin with.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Older.

I don't like the idea of dating someone a lot younger than me.