Would you rather date someone who is super arrogant or super insecure?

[Anna__M]

Arrogant definitely. Super Insecure people are some of the most toxic and draining people to be around. I can deal with arrogance because it isn’t always exhibited in a toxic manner. However insecure people tend to be sabotaging (toward themselves and you), spiteful, irritating, pessimistic, depressing, deprecating (toward themselves AND you), and ironically self centered. I also believe that people who hate, or can’t find value in themselves shouldn’t date or become partners with anyone. Extreme insecurity is a mental illness in my eyes.


As for arrogance vs confidence and insecurity vs humility.


Confident = positive self esteem, believing in yourself, having pride in your character and personal abilities.


Arrogant = self absorbed, superiority complex, aggressively vain, Selfish.


Humble = neutral about self worth, confident but not overly prideful, great full not greedy, supports themselves while supporting others too.


Insecure = low self esteem, unsure about personal capabilities, views themselves negatively,

[Anonymous]

I would have to say guy wise I wouldn't mind arrogance but as a girl I am very super insecure and also a insecure guy is good too because I can help him build his confidence but also with an arrogant guy I usually am able to help him remain humble. I least I would think so. But I am very insecure so I would have to arrogance but also super insecure I don't know lol 😆🙈

[ohshee]

I really don't like girls with big mouth because that means all about them and they're just loud and obnoxious and more than likely a drama queen so I would have to take the insecure and that just means that she takes deeper look into your eyes she's more slow motion with a touch probably has more passion and beauty within and for me that reflects to the outside and probably is a way better lover there is something that is so very beautiful about an insecure woman it comes out of her shell

[crmoore]

Super insecure. Insecurity is kind of cute, to an extent. (Though "super insecure" is likely too much, but it's still better than super arrogant)

[MCheetah]

I, as a male, have no problem dating insecure women. Hell, I'm insecure about my height (181 cm) myself; I f*cking HATE being as short as I am! In fact, I think pretty much ONLY women require a high amount of ego in men. Men don't usually care if a woman is insecure, because 1. Most women are insecure about multiple things anyway and 2. Society doesn't expect women to always be brave, heroic, and stoic like they do with men.

"Which one is more tolerable? Being more egotistical or being too insecure?"

I *PREFER* women without ego. I like insecure women, because they're real. Confident (arrogant) women are a turn-off to me.

"Also what’s the line drawn between being insecure and being humble?"

I've wondered about this a lot, myself. According to what women have said (because they like ego in men), it's basically how much you talk about it. Humble men are quiet, and insecure men are always bringing up their faults and flaws.

"And what’s the line drawn between being confident and being arrogant? Honestly what’s the difference even?"

Same thing. Confident men are quiet and arrogant, while arrogant men are loudly confident.

Thanks for the question, miss @NoNamexx.

(And WTF is up with GAG giving me these question suggestions late AF?)

[slatyb]

Virtually everyone is insecure about something. That's fine as long as they don't make their insecurities someone else's problem. Arrogance is not the opposite of insecurity.

[Makeushiver]

Given the way things are going in the Trump household there may be an obese, orange narcissist available soon for anyone who does like to date self entitled moron

[Tema123]

I would rather stay single than waste my time with either.
Nevertheless being insecure is not as bad as being arrogant. I abbor arrogant men more than anything!

[have_a_good_day]

insecure people are usually very down to earth and try to seek for other's approval..
arrogant people only look to break others down in order to lift themselves up higher.

[TheUniqueOne96]

I’d rather date someone really insecure.

Neither are ideal, but I think someone who acts like they're better than everyone else all the time, would get on my nerves more, so fuck that.

[Elena_the_Star]

Arrogant to others?- Maybe
Arrogant to me and my loved ones- Fuck no!

Insecure as in jealous, possessive?- Maybe, to an extent
Insecure as in no confidence?- No.

[Miristheiss]

Since you went the extremes... and it isn't just a little arrogant or a little insecure I'd go with insecure.
I don't think I could stand and extremely arrogant person.

[Iron_Man]

I can’t imagine a super Arrogant girl unless she’s the heavyweight champion of the world

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

I absolutely would not date a girl that was arrogant nor insecure.☯️

[FilmGuy93]

Given the choice, I would go with the arrogant person. I really really really do not like insecurity. Insecure people take their insecurity out on the relationship and the other people around them.

[Steinkopf]

Whenever I think about insecure girls I like to imagine that I will be that guy that gives them confidence and direction so insecurity in a girl is a not a turnoff for me. Arrogant women however don't appeal to me in the slightest.

[modelUN242]

Arrogant guys would be better but not ideal. Though, I can tame that arrogancy lol.

[Anonymous]

Arrogant. I feel like it’d be too tiring for me personally considering that I’m also super insecure. I can handle my own insecurities just fine but having to ‘deal’ with another’s isn’t for me.

[Flower7]

I'd rather have the insecure guy. I think shyness is very attractive in guys.

[Anonymous]

Well, I would like to say I am by far the greatest... Please don't hurt me mam!

[BarryLiverstone]

Arrogant. Both are a turn-off If to the extreme but an arrogant person can be humbled a bit. Someone that insecure would take years to become mature enough

[Floppy2112]

I'll pick 'C'. I'd rather die alone than deal with either. Consequently, they are often one in the same.

[Bazpurum]

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[GoldenTulip]

I'd say Insecure men. I hate Arrogant men to the core! I will feel suffocated...