I’m not gonna get into that with them when they’re new to me at first I just want a good report and a good connection with her and carry on from there? How’s the Chinese girlfriend going do you see yourself marrying her?
I see her as the best candidate for that vacancy, but I have given myself a 2 year minimum dating period before getting married, and. . . we have yet to have an argument. You never know your partner until you have had and resolved a few disagreements with her.
I mean If you’re not dating to marry then what’s the point of dating lol. That’s how I feel personally. We’re not objects & we should value our feelings and self’s.
Anon. Are you a traditional woman with traditional values? Marriage is a TRADITIONAL institution, with the man as the head of the family and the woman as head of the home. If you don't believe in these things than there is no point in getting married.
@Jamie05rhs@KrakenAttackin I think that a man should be the head of the family but should exercise that authority in a very benevolent and egalitarian manner. That means that the thoughts and feelings of his wife should be given just as much consideration as his own thoughts and feelings.
Guys maybe frustrated with me about marriage talk since I was never one to talk about marriage. After spending time dating and he treats me well, and he has the potential to be a good father, husband, go for it. Otherwise, go separate ways.
I ask if they want to get married at some point and if they have sex before marriage. These two are nonnegotiable for me. If we have any future, marriage has to be a possibility and premarital sex has to be a reality.
Last time I told a girl my goal in wanting to be with her (casual friends with benefits) she lost her shit and started swearing at me. So afterwards I was thinking to myself "so this is why guys lead girls on, they just can't handle a guys honesty. got it". So I'm not afraid, I just don't really see any value in being upfront at the get-go if it costs me an opportunity to get laid.
I am speaking of your goals for yourself, not your goal with this particular person. You can know "I hope to meet the right lady and be married in the next few years" without thinking "and this is The One!"
Not afraid at all. Just not sure so I don't bring it up. If they do, which hasn't happened as yet, I would say something vague like "just looking for the right person".
I’m looking for marriage. If things don’t work out I might be their friend if they wanted, but looking for marriage is what dating in for in my opinion.
I typically dont say anything unless they bring it up. It really depends on the girl. I want to get married but i also like casual sex. So either is a win for me.
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I’m not gonna get into that with them when they’re new to me at first I just want a good report and a good connection with her and carry on from there? How’s the Chinese girlfriend going do you see yourself marrying her?
I see her as the best candidate for that vacancy, but I have given myself a 2 year minimum dating period before getting married, and. . . we have yet to have an argument. You never know your partner until you have had and resolved a few disagreements with her.
Thanks for asking!
You’re very welcome and it sounds awesome on everything you just said it’s actually perfect that’s the way to go. I hope that she is the one for you 👍
I mean If you’re not dating to marry then what’s the point of dating lol. That’s how I feel personally. We’re not objects & we should value our feelings and self’s.
Anon. Are you a traditional woman with traditional values? Marriage is a TRADITIONAL institution, with the man as the head of the family and the woman as head of the home. If you don't believe in these things than there is no point in getting married.
I disagree with @KrakenAttackin, respectfully.
I disagree too a woman should have the say so In things as well and I’m pretty chill so I dont think I’ll have many problems.
OP. "A woman should have the say"? So the woman is the boss?
She said "as well."
@Jamie05rhs @KrakenAttackin I think that a man should be the head of the family but should exercise that authority in a very benevolent and egalitarian manner. That means that the thoughts and feelings of his wife should be given just as much consideration as his own thoughts and feelings.
@OlderAndWiser I am pretty much in agreement with you there, except maybe 5-10% more feminist.
Be direct , If you don’t want the same thing. Don’t waste each other’s time and break your hearts
Guys maybe frustrated with me about marriage talk since I was never one to talk about marriage.
After spending time dating and he treats me well, and he has the potential to be a good father, husband, go for it. Otherwise, go separate ways.
Did you mean "may be" instead of "maybe"?
My goals change because not every guy is marriage or relationship material.
I am speaking of your goals for yourself, not your goal with this particular person.
@OlderAndWiser That's today's younger generation for you. They just use people who what they can get out of them.
Never really thought about having that convo - assumed that everyone knew that dating was about finding out about others as potential mates.
Some people (not me) are dating and intend to never be married and are hoping to avoid LTR.
My partner and I discussed everything the first day we met. Luckily, we both wanted the same. Permenant relationship, no marriage, no kids.
Nah I used to tell my exact motives so they can back off if it’s not what they wanted. I really don’t want to waste my time!
I ask if they want to get married at some point and if they have sex before marriage. These two are nonnegotiable for me. If we have any future, marriage has to be a possibility and premarital sex has to be a reality.
My goal doesn't become clear until certain mileposts are hit.
Last time I told a girl my goal in wanting to be with her (casual friends with benefits) she lost her shit and started swearing at me. So afterwards I was thinking to myself "so this is why guys lead girls on, they just can't handle a guys honesty. got it". So I'm not afraid, I just don't really see any value in being upfront at the get-go if it costs me an opportunity to get laid.
How would I know. I need to know her before thinking anything.
I am speaking of your goals for yourself, not your goal with this particular person. You can know "I hope to meet the right lady and be married in the next few years" without thinking "and this is The One!"
I wouldn’t discuss my goals until I thought that she was a possibility
Not afraid at all. Just not sure so I don't bring it up. If they do, which hasn't happened as yet, I would say something vague like "just looking for the right person".
I’m looking for marriage. If things don’t work out I might be their friend if they wanted, but looking for marriage is what dating in for in my opinion.
I think saying what we actually feel as long as we feel certain may not be so bad..
I typically dont say anything unless they bring it up. It really depends on the girl. I want to get married but i also like casual sex. So either is a win for me.
I find it best to get cards on the table so you know what each other are looking for.
Either A or B. I don't believe actual marriage is any different than someone you are commited to.
Not afraid of what will come and tell everything about myself
I'm afraid they'd set a goal for me. I don't date and when I will, I will for fun.