HELP! I need some advice?

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So, there is this cute 50 year old man I'm really interested in... we have met a year ago and thing is, I'm 17 (turning 18 in less than a month) and just want to get to know him as much as I possibly can before I turn 18 and finally decide to ask him out.

From what I see, he throws subtle signs of interest towards me, but overall, I feel like we are both afraid to do anything because of my age (obviously makes sense) but I've just hid it back and am just waiting on the days to pass so I can finally take it a step further. As of next week, we will see each other again and want to know from an older gentleman's perspective, what should I talk to him about. What are some conversation starters I can use without weirding him out? Since there will be a lot of older men at the event, I want to be as low of this as possible so nobody catches on to him and I conversing and assuming other things. My goal isn't to date him illegally but date him when I am legal. But just to break the ice between us as acquaintances and get closer so I dont ask the guy out and he stares at me blankly stating "we haven't gotten to know each other much yet".

Answer 1

ChrisMaster69 | 2.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I answered a similar question to this the other day.

the important things to bear in mind:

a younger girl chasing an older guy is okay
an older guy chasing a younger girl (sub 20) is always risky and needs discussed with friends, family.
Being attracted to someone because of age, is personally wrong.

an older guy will be nervous about rejection, yeah we may be experienced but we have a paranoia voice sitting there ready to say ‘I told you so’, when she laughs and says ‘me with a guy your age 😂😂’

its really about just being open and clear with what you talk about.
background on each of you.
usual small talk, ask about his kids (if he has any)
avoid talking over much about age, it gets weird and reminds you just how older you are.

try and find something that makes you compatible, because if you do not have anything compatible then it will be very hard to maintain a relationship with a large age gap…

The other big things are friends and family on your side, their reactions and also on his side his kids reaction to him dating a far younger girl.

How will you introduce him to your parents?

is he older or younger than your parents?

there is a fair bit tbh.

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Answer 2

GoodGuyBreakingBad | 5.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Go by what your heart says and if you and the guy get along just make small conversation keep it casual, ask him things he likes to do, what kind of weather
he likes, ask him if he has any sports he is into and people need not to let opinion
if they are going to be rude

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GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
You can ask him what type of movies he likes ( Comedy, Romantic, Mystery, True to life, etc )
Ask him if he likes shooting pool, going bowling, Trust me when I was age 35 I dated a
An 18-year-old girl and we kissed held hands , cuddled it wasn't about sex
Asker

11 mo
Ooh! Good idea! I'll definitely use that as a starter question! :)
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
@Asker You're Welcome :) These are pointers and starters
Ask the guy if he likes to play card games, board games, ask him if he is a gamer?
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Asker

11 mo
Oh my gosh! How smart! Maybe at the event I could bring a deck of cards and play a round of poker or blackjack!!!
Asker

11 mo
In your perspective, would it feel right if I wanted to start the conversation with you? How would it make you feel? (Just curious to see your perspective as it could align with his POV as well)
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
@Asker Yes it would be okay for sure
Asker

11 mo
How would you feel necessarily? Would you feel happy, confused, etc?
Asker

11 mo
Sorry if you feel like I'm interrogating you, I just tend to overthink these things and want to make sure I don't hit the wrong side and suddenly mess something up.
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
@Asker As an Older Guy, I'm into things such as music from all generies, Phil Collins, Al Greene, Billy Paul, The Supremes, Little Anthony and the Imperials
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
@Asker - I would feel Happy and not Confused also ask him what kind of foods he likes
does he like to cook, does he prefer having someone cook for him
Asker

11 mo
That's also quite a good idea. Why should I ask the food question, so maybe sometime I can offer to cook for him? If so, that's a pretty good one too.
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
@Asker Maybe ask what kind of food he likes, heck it takes nothing to make Spaghetti and Meatsauce and a Garden Salad, Garlic Bread
Asker

11 mo
Lol, by then I can possibly cook or bake something for him.
Asker

11 mo
Also, I was wondering how do you feel when a younger woman smiles at you? Is it a good feeling or does it make you think a bit of what signs she is throwing.
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
@Asker - I like when a younger Woman smiles at me it makes me feel good
and it's a good feeling to know cause I fear rejection , I will admit I had a
younger crush on girl who I lost contact with and I fell to pieces over her
Asker

11 mo
Well, this guy... we met a year ago on one night and we didn't really had a reason to meet each other after that, I didn't have ability to meet him again until this year and I have some members of the organization that allowed me to come along as a guest for further events. I remember the look on every guy in the event just gawking but my eyes were fixated on him the whole time. So I think if I smile to him and put my attention to him, maybe he will get a clue.
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
@Asker - Yes I agree with you , I hope this works out for you :)
GoodGuyBreakingBad

11 mo
Thanks For MHO :)

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GoodGuyBreakingBad

You can ask him what type of movies he likes ( Comedy, Romantic, Mystery, True to life, etc )
Ask him if he likes shooting pool, going bowling, Trust me when I was age 35 I dated a
An 18-year-old girl and we kissed held hands , cuddled it wasn't about sex

Answer 4

Asker

Ooh! Good idea! I'll definitely use that as a starter question! :)

Answer 5

GoodGuyBreakingBad

@Asker You're Welcome :) These are pointers and starters
Ask the guy if he likes to play card games, board games, ask him if he is a gamer?

Answer 6

Asker

Oh my gosh! How smart! Maybe at the event I could bring a deck of cards and play a round of poker or blackjack!!!

Answer 7

Asker

In your perspective, would it feel right if I wanted to start the conversation with you? How would it make you feel? (Just curious to see your perspective as it could align with his POV as well)

Answer 8

GoodGuyBreakingBad

@Asker Yes it would be okay for sure

Answer 9

Asker

How would you feel necessarily? Would you feel happy, confused, etc?

Answer 10

Asker

Sorry if you feel like I'm interrogating you, I just tend to overthink these things and want to make sure I don't hit the wrong side and suddenly mess something up.

Answer 11

GoodGuyBreakingBad

@Asker As an Older Guy, I'm into things such as music from all generies, Phil Collins, Al Greene, Billy Paul, The Supremes, Little Anthony and the Imperials

Answer 12

GoodGuyBreakingBad

@Asker - I would feel Happy and not Confused also ask him what kind of foods he likes
does he like to cook, does he prefer having someone cook for him

Answer 13

Asker

That's also quite a good idea. Why should I ask the food question, so maybe sometime I can offer to cook for him? If so, that's a pretty good one too.

Answer 14

GoodGuyBreakingBad

@Asker Maybe ask what kind of food he likes, heck it takes nothing to make Spaghetti and Meatsauce and a Garden Salad, Garlic Bread

Answer 15

Asker

Lol, by then I can possibly cook or bake something for him.

Answer 16

Asker

Also, I was wondering how do you feel when a younger woman smiles at you? Is it a good feeling or does it make you think a bit of what signs she is throwing.

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GoodGuyBreakingBad

@Asker - I like when a younger Woman smiles at me it makes me feel good
and it's a good feeling to know cause I fear rejection , I will admit I had a
younger crush on girl who I lost contact with and I fell to pieces over her

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Asker

Well, this guy... we met a year ago on one night and we didn't really had a reason to meet each other after that, I didn't have ability to meet him again until this year and I have some members of the organization that allowed me to come along as a guest for further events. I remember the look on every guy in the event just gawking but my eyes were fixated on him the whole time. So I think if I smile to him and put my attention to him, maybe he will get a clue.

Answer 19

GoodGuyBreakingBad

@Asker - Yes I agree with you , I hope this works out for you :)

Answer 20

GoodGuyBreakingBad

Thanks For MHO :)

Answer 21

myname604

Xper 4

You have plenty of time to wait and keep getting to know him. Do not rush at 17 turning 18 to try and date this guy, he may not even see things the same way.
It s very hard to make an older guy fall in love, only nature itself can help. If he is very good he probably can't even imagine you that way yet.
In a year or 2 he might.
Keep hi on the hook but don't push him into anything especially at your age.
Also at your age it maybe just a passing fancy that you might get over later. That is why you must go slowly with such an important thing.
And don't let immature jealous younger men have any affect on you if this is a lasting feeling you have.
And remember the internet is the worst place to ask for advice. The place is full of trolls and degenerates.

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Asker

11 mo
Yeah, that's true. I really want to take my time with this guy... I really enjoy everything about him. Since I met him a year ago, I always thought about him when we stopped meeting. When we finally saw each other again, I was very ecstatic. I heard that if it takes too long to make a move they may just move on but I'm unsure of that now that you mention that I shouldn't rush this... which is all true.
Asker

11 mo
I... just really want him to feel like there is someone who likes him with flaws or not. When he joked when we were shaking hands and waiting for a picture to be taken, he said "wow, I haven't held a woman's hand for this long since my ex-wife" I looked at him and smiled, he smiled back. I want him to feel as special as I think he is. I want to at least spend time with him, to share some memories together... it makes me happy to think about him. :,)
myname604

11 mo
He is not too old, it could be love, a potential for a family.
A girlfriend of mine, her dad met a chick younger than his daughter, my girlfriend, and he was 50 something and they had a beautiful baby together.
I wish my dad would find a new love.
I also knew a couple that spent a long life together, he died at 91, not because of old age but because she kept him so happy, he had too much energy that she got old and tired and decided to break up with him and his broken heart killed him.
She was 17 when they met and he was 54.

Also when Eva Braun met Hitler, she was 17 and he was 43.
Older men are so hot too, caring, sensitive, masculine, wise, intelligent and so much more.
And so romantic...
I hope all the best for you with this guy.
And never let anybody try to knock you for it.
You are a grown woman almost, your direction is yours for the choosing, chose happiness and hope. There is nothing more beautiful than love.
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Asker

11 mo
Goodness, hearing your response has really made my day :,)
I've always hidden my type of guy because of fear of judgement... but just when I met this man I knew I had to throw my shot there. I love when he tries to make me smile, or I love where he does the littlest things that make me smile for the rest of the night. At the event we met weeks ago, he didn't have to sit across from me in the table, there was soooo many other tables to sit and he came and approached me. Even though it could be anything, it really made my day that because there was other groups sitting with each other that he knows really well, but he decided to sit with me and talk. I really felt special that night. That's really why I want to pursue this so badly...
myname604

11 mo
I am so happy I could make your day.
I do love a love story and romance.
It would be so nice to know the future, if it was a novel I would read excitedly to see the happy ending.
I hope you are keeping a diary and maybe one day right a romance about it.
Assuming it all goes according to your current hearts desires of coarse.
But if things do change, do not be broken hearted, you have these feelings to cherish forever.
I have had tragedy strike and lost my love as he was killed.
But I will always have the sweet memories. And hope one day I will find another like that.

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Asker

Yeah, that's true. I really want to take my time with this guy... I really enjoy everything about him. Since I met him a year ago, I always thought about him when we stopped meeting. When we finally saw each other again, I was very ecstatic. I heard that if it takes too long to make a move they may just move on but I'm unsure of that now that you mention that I shouldn't rush this... which is all true.

Answer 23

Asker

I... just really want him to feel like there is someone who likes him with flaws or not. When he joked when we were shaking hands and waiting for a picture to be taken, he said "wow, I haven't held a woman's hand for this long since my ex-wife" I looked at him and smiled, he smiled back. I want him to feel as special as I think he is. I want to at least spend time with him, to share some memories together... it makes me happy to think about him. :,)

Answer 24

myname604

He is not too old, it could be love, a potential for a family.
A girlfriend of mine, her dad met a chick younger than his daughter, my girlfriend, and he was 50 something and they had a beautiful baby together.
I wish my dad would find a new love.
I also knew a couple that spent a long life together, he died at 91, not because of old age but because she kept him so happy, he had too much energy that she got old and tired and decided to break up with him and his broken heart killed him.
She was 17 when they met and he was 54.

Also when Eva Braun met Hitler, she was 17 and he was 43.
Older men are so hot too, caring, sensitive, masculine, wise, intelligent and so much more.
And so romantic...
I hope all the best for you with this guy.
And never let anybody try to knock you for it.
You are a grown woman almost, your direction is yours for the choosing, chose happiness and hope. There is nothing more beautiful than love.

Answer 25

Asker

Goodness, hearing your response has really made my day :,)
I've always hidden my type of guy because of fear of judgement... but just when I met this man I knew I had to throw my shot there. I love when he tries to make me smile, or I love where he does the littlest things that make me smile for the rest of the night. At the event we met weeks ago, he didn't have to sit across from me in the table, there was soooo many other tables to sit and he came and approached me. Even though it could be anything, it really made my day that because there was other groups sitting with each other that he knows really well, but he decided to sit with me and talk. I really felt special that night. That's really why I want to pursue this so badly...

Answer 26

myname604

I am so happy I could make your day.
I do love a love story and romance.
It would be so nice to know the future, if it was a novel I would read excitedly to see the happy ending.
I hope you are keeping a diary and maybe one day right a romance about it.
Assuming it all goes according to your current hearts desires of coarse.
But if things do change, do not be broken hearted, you have these feelings to cherish forever.
I have had tragedy strike and lost my love as he was killed.
But I will always have the sweet memories. And hope one day I will find another like that.

Answer 27

Anonymous

Where did you guys meet? If you like him I'm assuming he's not like the losers giving you their opinion here and is probably a confident, self-assured man. Honestly don't feel pressured about being "at his level" and talking about "mature topics" just talk to him like you're talking to a slightly older guy (mid to late twenties) if you both now what's up you can easily ask him out when you turn 18, he won't be weirded out that you don't know each other very well you just need to know surface level things about each other, you can dive deeper on dates.

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Asker

11 mo
We met at a club meeting (club meaning like a organization) in my town. He has been in the organization since '99 I think... but I began to show up since last year to attend a speech competition. We met there as I was announced to be moving forward through the competition, the minute I thought there was something there was when we shook hands and kept our hands held together when the cameraman was fiddling to take a picture for about 5 minutes or so, he made the comment stating "this is the longest I've held a womans hand since my ex-wife" and we both laughed, we then smiled at each other and just throughout the night I was smiling.
Opinion Owner

11 mo
Have fun! And if you want more specific advice feel free to ask, I've been in your shoe before ;)
Asker

11 mo
I would love to ask you some more questions!! Um... would you be okay private messaging me? I dont want to give out too much info out in the public! :/
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Opinion Owner

11 mo
If you can PM I would love to, but for some reason I can't pm people (it says I don't have enough XP) otherwise if you're comfortable sharing some other contact info (maybe a throw away email or hangouts or insta or something) we can talk their.
Asker

11 mo
Yeah... same here. I dont have enough xp... :/
Opinion Owner

11 mo
Do you have a throwaway Google hangouts or insta account or something?
Asker

11 mo
Here is one of my useless gmail's you can contact me through aestheticxgarden@gmail. com
Opinion Owner

11 mo
Sent you an email 🙂

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Asker

We met at a club meeting (club meaning like a organization) in my town. He has been in the organization since '99 I think... but I began to show up since last year to attend a speech competition. We met there as I was announced to be moving forward through the competition, the minute I thought there was something there was when we shook hands and kept our hands held together when the cameraman was fiddling to take a picture for about 5 minutes or so, he made the comment stating "this is the longest I've held a womans hand since my ex-wife" and we both laughed, we then smiled at each other and just throughout the night I was smiling.

Answer 29

Opinion Owner

Have fun! And if you want more specific advice feel free to ask, I've been in your shoe before ;)

Answer 30

Asker

I would love to ask you some more questions!! Um... would you be okay private messaging me? I dont want to give out too much info out in the public! :/

Answer 31

Opinion Owner

If you can PM I would love to, but for some reason I can't pm people (it says I don't have enough XP) otherwise if you're comfortable sharing some other contact info (maybe a throw away email or hangouts or insta or something) we can talk their.

Answer 32

Asker

Yeah... same here. I dont have enough xp... :/

Answer 33

Opinion Owner

Do you have a throwaway Google hangouts or insta account or something?

Answer 34

Asker

Here is one of my useless gmail's you can contact me through aestheticxgarden@gmail. com

Answer 35

Opinion Owner

Sent you an email 🙂

Answer 36

Anonymous

Where, when, how often do you see him? It's hard to know what to suggest not knowing him or what he thinks about you, or age gaps like that. I guess think about it in the reverse (don't think about the age), if a guy was interested in you and wanted to do this, what would you tell him to do? Do that. lol But when you do finally break the ice and get talking, really get to know him. Not just common interests, but future goals in life and how each of you normally spend your time. With an age difference like that, these are often very different and are what will cause problems in the relationship at some point. That's assuming he's even interested.

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Answer 37

Luckycharms12 | 1.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

His 50 what are you doing find guy your own age in his 20s

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Asker

11 mo
For some reason, I should... but my mind literally enjoys a handsome old gentleman like the guy I'm crushing on.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
He is grooming you
Asker

11 mo
There is no way he is if I'm the one trying to ask him out!
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Luckycharms12

11 mo
50 year old guy shouldn't be taking to 17 year old guy
Luckycharms12

11 mo
Girl
myname604

11 mo
Stop being an immature jealous young boy man. Girls like older men, accept it and figure out why, when you are older and understand why then you will be in the same position he is.
You are exactly the prime example why we prefer older men.

Putting that aside, she is only 17 and you ragging on her about age is only going to make it worse.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
Excuse me. You have a clue what your taking about. Firstly you don't know me or anything about some so be quite. And secondly jealous of what I don't know the girl just think it's wrong. And if I'm 50 I will not be hitting on a fucking 17-year old child.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
And trying to talk down to someone really showing your class. You have lot of grown up to do so keep your mouth shut
myname604

11 mo
You have an even worse situation if you are 50 and talk about talking down to people, you are talk down to two girls who know what they want and you think you're our daddy or something.
You act like you are 20 years old. And you think you are the moral authority of women's choices.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
I talked down to you yes. You talked to down to me so pay back a bitch. I couldn't care less what you are in to you are adult do you who cares. Problem is child of 17 and 50 year old when she 18 can do whatever she wants. So you clearly missed my point
myname604

11 mo
You began by talking down to this girl. Nobody else in the comments acted this way.
I can already get the sense that you are the type of guy that would hit a girl too.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
You really haven't a clue what your taking about
myname604

11 mo
You are a snotty arrogant man child and you have serious issues.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
You are a completing othely ignorant and horrible say someone would hit a woman making judgement on someone you don't know. Saying they assault woman and have mental issues. You really are a very full of class. You are the snotty and arrogant one now go back in to what ever hole you crawled out of
myname604

11 mo
You pass judgements on people based only on arrogance, you speak down to women as if they are your children, you are downright rude in doing so and then tell people to "shut up" like you are the boss of me.
You might be a nice guy, but your attitude here does not reflect that.
You are trying to espouse a moral code onto adults instead of giving fair advice such as maybe "wait a couple years".
She said she is the interested in him and she is hoping he will be interested in her.
If she likes him that much then she has every right to but there are more things to worry about than how old he is.
If she can wait a couple years and win his heart then she could be happy, and why would you want to ruin that, do you have any idea how hard it is to find a half decent man these days?
Luckycharms12

11 mo
Ya I could I could have worded it better you're right.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
Ya I've code don't like anyone to be used and taken advantage of that was my fear for that poor girl
Asker

11 mo
@myname604 thank you! :,)
Luckycharms12

11 mo
Sorry to you both if I come across like I was putting you down or women down for that fact that wasn't my intention
Sarah696

11 mo
Dude shut up, every guy I've dated says young pussy is the best don't be jelly cuz this guy's a stud in his 50's
Asker

11 mo
To me, he is an absolute handsome man. Many girls would disagree because he is tall, has a belly and wears glasses, but to me... looking at him makes me internally scream! His smile though... ugh! I can't even help but smile whenever I see his smile form on his face <3
Luckycharms12

11 mo
Cute best of luck.
Luckycharms12

11 mo
@sarah not every guy says younger pussy better. maybe where you are from not here.
myname604

11 mo
A lot of young guys like to date older women too. I think this is good too but only temporarily to help them mature so they can one day have a younger wife to give them a family once the guy has grown his wisdom, experiences and knowledge.
Sarah696

11 mo
@myname604 exactly the natural order is young woman older man plus tbh most guys like older women only because they're more likely to go out with him but when it comes to the sexual feel an 18 year old woman is of course gonna be better than a 50 year old one

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Asker

For some reason, I should... but my mind literally enjoys a handsome old gentleman like the guy I'm crushing on.

Answer 39

Luckycharms12

He is grooming you

Answer 40

Asker

There is no way he is if I'm the one trying to ask him out!

Answer 41

Luckycharms12

50 year old guy shouldn't be taking to 17 year old guy

Answer 42

Luckycharms12

Girl

Answer 43

myname604

Stop being an immature jealous young boy man. Girls like older men, accept it and figure out why, when you are older and understand why then you will be in the same position he is.
You are exactly the prime example why we prefer older men.

Putting that aside, she is only 17 and you ragging on her about age is only going to make it worse.

Answer 44

Luckycharms12

Excuse me. You have a clue what your taking about. Firstly you don't know me or anything about some so be quite. And secondly jealous of what I don't know the girl just think it's wrong. And if I'm 50 I will not be hitting on a fucking 17-year old child.

Answer 45

Luckycharms12

And trying to talk down to someone really showing your class. You have lot of grown up to do so keep your mouth shut

Answer 46

myname604

You have an even worse situation if you are 50 and talk about talking down to people, you are talk down to two girls who know what they want and you think you're our daddy or something.
You act like you are 20 years old. And you think you are the moral authority of women's choices.

Answer 47

Luckycharms12

I talked down to you yes. You talked to down to me so pay back a bitch. I couldn't care less what you are in to you are adult do you who cares. Problem is child of 17 and 50 year old when she 18 can do whatever she wants. So you clearly missed my point

Answer 48

myname604

You began by talking down to this girl. Nobody else in the comments acted this way.
I can already get the sense that you are the type of guy that would hit a girl too.

Answer 49

Luckycharms12

You really haven't a clue what your taking about

Answer 50

myname604

You are a snotty arrogant man child and you have serious issues.

Answer 51

Luckycharms12

You are a completing othely ignorant and horrible say someone would hit a woman making judgement on someone you don't know. Saying they assault woman and have mental issues. You really are a very full of class. You are the snotty and arrogant one now go back in to what ever hole you crawled out of

Answer 52

myname604

You pass judgements on people based only on arrogance, you speak down to women as if they are your children, you are downright rude in doing so and then tell people to "shut up" like you are the boss of me.
You might be a nice guy, but your attitude here does not reflect that.
You are trying to espouse a moral code onto adults instead of giving fair advice such as maybe "wait a couple years".
She said she is the interested in him and she is hoping he will be interested in her.
If she likes him that much then she has every right to but there are more things to worry about than how old he is.
If she can wait a couple years and win his heart then she could be happy, and why would you want to ruin that, do you have any idea how hard it is to find a half decent man these days?

Answer 53

Luckycharms12

Ya I could I could have worded it better you're right.

Answer 54

Luckycharms12

Ya I've code don't like anyone to be used and taken advantage of that was my fear for that poor girl

Answer 55

Asker

@myname604 thank you! :,)

Answer 56

Luckycharms12

Sorry to you both if I come across like I was putting you down or women down for that fact that wasn't my intention

Answer 57

Sarah696

Dude shut up, every guy I've dated says young pussy is the best don't be jelly cuz this guy's a stud in his 50's

Answer 58

Asker

To me, he is an absolute handsome man. Many girls would disagree because he is tall, has a belly and wears glasses, but to me... looking at him makes me internally scream! His smile though... ugh! I can't even help but smile whenever I see his smile form on his face <3

Answer 59

Luckycharms12

Cute best of luck.

Answer 60

Luckycharms12

@sarah not every guy says younger pussy better. maybe where you are from not here.

Answer 61

myname604

A lot of young guys like to date older women too. I think this is good too but only temporarily to help them mature so they can one day have a younger wife to give them a family once the guy has grown his wisdom, experiences and knowledge.

Answer 62

Sarah696

@myname604 exactly the natural order is young woman older man plus tbh most guys like older women only because they're more likely to go out with him but when it comes to the sexual feel an 18 year old woman is of course gonna be better than a 50 year old one

Answer 63

Laciandmaci | 132 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

How can a 50 year old man be found "cute to a girl your age" I would be thinking, of my dad when I look at him, gross.

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Asker

11 mo
To each their own?
SamFromFL

11 mo
@lanadelrey25 is also 17 and has a 50 year old boyfriend she’s about to meet soon also. So they can be cute to some girls
Laciandmaci

11 mo
right I am just not wanting to hook up with a guy who cold be my... daddy! I am not desperate! Plus men that age is more likely to be less healthy hell he may not be able to get it up, and if he does maybe he is on Viagra
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Laciandmaci

11 mo
@SamFromFL I understand but IMHO I find them desperate for attention. Who wants to think of having sex with a guy their dads age not me, if that is what they like fine that is them that will NEVER be me, I tick to guys around my age.
Asker

11 mo
Okay, I guess we have an immature person here. :/

Making assumptions that I'm desperate and looking for a dad is totally the answer to the situation.
Laciandmaci

11 mo
Not saying that I am just saying my personal preference, buy saying I would be thinking of my dad!
Laciandmaci

11 mo
Also never said your looking for a dad, I said a guy that age COULD be your dad there is a difference!
Asker

11 mo
Sure, because that's totally not what you stated. Anyways, yes your opinion matters but doesn't apply to this question so...
Laciandmaci

11 mo
If you want my opinion take it slow, but no that is not what I said if you learn to comprehend what I said and take time to process it, maybe just then you would understand, I said I would be thinking of MY dad. Also I just know a friend of mine who said she dates older guys because she is desperate and can't find a good guy her age.
Laciandmaci

11 mo
Also it is not rocket science on how to talk to an older man, talk about older topic, like older movies, music, cars, so on and so on. Just be careful!
Asker

11 mo
Well, that's true that some girls will get desperate and reach older ages, but not necessarily with others. I have always just found them mature and I prefer that. I've had my fair share with immature boyfriends who would let toxic people interfere with our relationship and it just gets annoying. :/
Laciandmaci

11 mo
Well that is true!
Asker

11 mo
Once I met this guy, he was honest, respectful, and really shows how much he can care for someone while knowing his boundaries. Yes, he knows I'm not an adult yet, yes, I know I'm not 18 yet, but I want to get closer as a friend more than anything before I ask the question if he would like to go on a date.
Laciandmaci

11 mo
Just be careful, he could be playing you. But yes friend zone him first get to know him a bit more than see if that interest is still there! But honestly can you see yourself with him in 30 maybe 40 years from now? Hate to be rude... but there is a high chance he will be dead, and we will lose those cute looks. Just trying to help and I am concerned for your safety, there is many older men who lures young girls like us in to a danger trap, not all though, that is why I am stressing proceed with caution!
lanadelrey25

11 mo
@SamFromFL Yup, I'm not desperate and neither is he, we genuinely get along very well and I have 0 attraction to guys my age. They usually aren't mature and they're the ones who are usually poor. I have higher standards and it pays off. I will be taken care of financially and I love him.

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Asker

To each their own?

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SamFromFL

@lanadelrey25 is also 17 and has a 50 year old boyfriend she’s about to meet soon also. So they can be cute to some girls

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Laciandmaci

right I am just not wanting to hook up with a guy who cold be my... daddy! I am not desperate! Plus men that age is more likely to be less healthy hell he may not be able to get it up, and if he does maybe he is on Viagra

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Laciandmaci

@SamFromFL I understand but IMHO I find them desperate for attention. Who wants to think of having sex with a guy their dads age not me, if that is what they like fine that is them that will NEVER be me, I tick to guys around my age.

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Asker

Okay, I guess we have an immature person here. :/

Making assumptions that I'm desperate and looking for a dad is totally the answer to the situation.

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Laciandmaci

Not saying that I am just saying my personal preference, buy saying I would be thinking of my dad!

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Laciandmaci

Also never said your looking for a dad, I said a guy that age COULD be your dad there is a difference!

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Asker

Sure, because that's totally not what you stated. Anyways, yes your opinion matters but doesn't apply to this question so...

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Laciandmaci

If you want my opinion take it slow, but no that is not what I said if you learn to comprehend what I said and take time to process it, maybe just then you would understand, I said I would be thinking of MY dad. Also I just know a friend of mine who said she dates older guys because she is desperate and can't find a good guy her age.

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Laciandmaci

Also it is not rocket science on how to talk to an older man, talk about older topic, like older movies, music, cars, so on and so on. Just be careful!

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Asker

Well, that's true that some girls will get desperate and reach older ages, but not necessarily with others. I have always just found them mature and I prefer that. I've had my fair share with immature boyfriends who would let toxic people interfere with our relationship and it just gets annoying. :/

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Laciandmaci

Well that is true!

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Asker

Once I met this guy, he was honest, respectful, and really shows how much he can care for someone while knowing his boundaries. Yes, he knows I'm not an adult yet, yes, I know I'm not 18 yet, but I want to get closer as a friend more than anything before I ask the question if he would like to go on a date.

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Laciandmaci

Just be careful, he could be playing you. But yes friend zone him first get to know him a bit more than see if that interest is still there! But honestly can you see yourself with him in 30 maybe 40 years from now? Hate to be rude... but there is a high chance he will be dead, and we will lose those cute looks. Just trying to help and I am concerned for your safety, there is many older men who lures young girls like us in to a danger trap, not all though, that is why I am stressing proceed with caution!

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lanadelrey25

@SamFromFL Yup, I'm not desperate and neither is he, we genuinely get along very well and I have 0 attraction to guys my age. They usually aren't mature and they're the ones who are usually poor. I have higher standards and it pays off. I will be taken care of financially and I love him.

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awanti95

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You are adult and you can decide if you wanna to go ahead with him or not

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SamFromFL | 452 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Have you met his kids?

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Asker

11 mo
Uh, I'm not sure if he has kids at all considering I've only heard from him mention "ex-wife" when we first met
SamFromFL

11 mo
If he’s 50, cute, and has an ex wife then likely he has kids who are already adults and older then you are. Was curious what meeting them would mean at some point
Asker

11 mo
That is true, we have only met twice at the same event so we really never had the chance to know how our life is outside of this organized event.

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Asker

Uh, I'm not sure if he has kids at all considering I've only heard from him mention "ex-wife" when we first met

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SamFromFL

If he’s 50, cute, and has an ex wife then likely he has kids who are already adults and older then you are. Was curious what meeting them would mean at some point

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Asker

That is true, we have only met twice at the same event so we really never had the chance to know how our life is outside of this organized event.

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Kas19 | 344 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Girl what-

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Asker

11 mo
To each their own girl... to each their own.
Kas19

11 mo
I'm more worried about you than anything lmao. Be safe, okay?
Asker

11 mo
Thanks, and trust me... I really can trust this guy, and he always shows class and respect, never anything more than that.
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Kas19

11 mo
Hmm. Those sound like the bare minimum in a relationship/friendship. Doesn't necessarily mean you can trust them. Anyway, don't mean to be a party pooper. Just be cautious.
Sabretooth

11 mo
or, that they're legit. this'll really screw you over in the long run.

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Asker

To each their own girl... to each their own.

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Kas19

I'm more worried about you than anything lmao. Be safe, okay?

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Asker

Thanks, and trust me... I really can trust this guy, and he always shows class and respect, never anything more than that.

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Kas19

Hmm. Those sound like the bare minimum in a relationship/friendship. Doesn't necessarily mean you can trust them. Anyway, don't mean to be a party pooper. Just be cautious.