yes. I can honestly say that in general, the problem was my own smashed self worth.
I saw their interest.. could feel it... we know the emotional communication at a deep level. My heart (sub conscious) would intercept that and think "they are nuts, I'll show them" off. I'd find something wrong... to justify my avoidance of them, and I'd emotionally block. I recall feeling good they lost, it's really messed up.
At it's core... attraction is emotional.. a vibration... someone wants closer to me, intimacy... ultimiately sex and reproduction. I was avoiding intimacy, in shame and fear... with oaths and curses on myself. How could I feel for someone in that condition? I ran for years.
There's the occasional person that is clearly not a fit and that's easy to deal with, but plenty of them along the way were reasonable to give a chance, but I didn't give them one. It has little to do with their looks.
Lessons learned in life: relationships, those are opportunities to grow, to examine yourself. Do so and mature, before you get too far along. You really have to take pause if you feel something strong, what is going on, process it, and address if there is something wrong. If you don't, "it" is in control of your life. If I could go back, I'd put myself in therapy in my teens at the latest.
I'm getting better now, I'm seeing these things. I have a girlfriend that helped expose a lot of the junk that was me, in hopes I rise to a more full life. It's a process though.
there was this girl named sarah in school. EVERYONE was mean to her for some reason. Well that reason was because she had a nose like a pig and pinkish skin. The stuff the kids would say to her was horrible. Well she happened to have a crush on me. Like every other girl in school who leave letters in my locker, and in my desk. I was never put off by Sarah.
I think people are cruel, and mean and ugly inside.
That's the thing that sucks about being someone with no interest in sex or relationships. I'm not into anyone that way. I always feel a bit bad if I find out someone likes me, because I can't reciprocate those feelings.
I'm not turned off by them as in disgusted by them or anything, but the feelings just aren't mutual.
I still treat them the same way I would anyone else, but try my best to not give off any impression that there's any chance I reciprocate their feelings. The last thing I want is to accidentally lead anyone on.
Of course! Just because someone is into me doesn't mean I'm into them.
Same with friendship. Just because someone wants to be your friend doesn't mean you want to be theirs.
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I think I attract people who consider me their best option so they are usually guys with similar income and appearance as me. Sometimes I will attract a guy who earns or looks better than me but not all of those guys are good people inside. At my age, I’m willing to settle for a poor or boring guy if he is a good person.
I've never been offended by women who were attracted to me but I wasn't into them. Only one, from years ago, but it was because she was a serious stalker and even started trying to talk to my family. That bothered me.
Other than that, I'm not turned off by it because I wasn't attracted to them to begin with. Regardless, them being into me could sometimes be flattering. And I didn't ever reject them in any cruel or cold way.
Yes. I tend to attract girls that are married or have a boyfriend. I have a girl like that now. I hated her at first she was a dick to me. As we got more cool she started pinching my ass at work and giving me long glances. Before I knew it, we're making out all over the place and doing a bit more although not full sex. Now she dialed it back and kinda plays hot and cold, immaturity.
It’s human nature to assume that something that is less accessible and challenging to obtain is somehow higher value. While seemingly logical this doesn’t always make it true.
I’ve seen a lot of women who have cat like personalities when it comes to attraction. The guy who gives them less attention and/or is less available comes off as more attractive since he’s a challenge. Then the guy who actually does what she “says” she likes is a turnoff who either gets turned down or most likely friéndzoned.
It’s very sad.
I've missed a lot of clues when someone had flirted with me in the past. So there were some real winners that I completely ignored because I was oblivious.
So the less attractive and bolder got my attention... because there was no one else... that I was aware of.
Part of my self esteem problem was that... that women that I found unattractive pursued me and because (I felt that) no one else did part of me was like... is this it?
And the world of sex addiction and depraved behavior grabbed me for a few years and chewed me up.
My now wife was familiar with autism and Asperger's and she's the only one that loved me through my deepest point.
She's a blessing that I never deserved but for whom I'm so grateful to God.
My life wasn't perfect, it's not perfect now... but it's so much better.
Sometimes. I get likes/flirts on apps from people whom I have no interest in.
Even back in high school there were some girls that I just was not attracted to but they would hit on me. Even if I was dating someone already. I was in band and track so going out and seeing people was just common.
well this is obviously true by default for everyone on the planet. because it's more likely that someone less attractive than you is attracted to you. cause people tend to aim up, not down when they choose their mates.
I think there's a typo in your question, because I'm not sure what you're asking
Not really, then again... many woman have never directly let me know they were attracted to me. My life has been full of hints that as a guy I just don't get.
Usually it's stupid but more often than not I'm turned off by people that like me and I like those that does not like me.
Often. My physical type isn't often the personality type im looking for
It does get uncomfortable when unwanted attention is received especially when we're not interested in someone.
Yes! The girls that were horrible to my friends but tried to get in my pants! I can't be with a cruel hearted harpy! Even though I'm 6'3 if I find out she only dates tall guys, NEXT! I don't deal with shallow individuals.
No idea... I don't think anyone ever has been attracted to me... And if someone was.. and she was a ugly girl... I'd jus be happy someone was into me... I wouldn't care if she was ugly.. I'd still give her what she wants if you know what I mean 😜😋🍆🍆
So no, I'm turned on by all girls.. except fat ones
Not necessarily turned off. Just not turned on. Once I even tried with someone that I wasn't attracted to and ended up having a great experience. Turns out I didn't care about attraction with the lights off!
The straight up answer to your question is yes. Of course I've found myself in this situation. You're not going to be attracted to everyone, just like everybody else.
Often, tbh. There are a few guys where I return the interest and find them attractive also, but I frequently also have to turn people down unfortunately, although I always feel bad when I do it
Um definitely yes. I have definitely had some weird people attracted to me that are definitely not into the same stuff as me or are just bad people in general.
Yes quite a lot actually, I am in a steady relationship and a lot of guys show interest or try to flirt inspite of me showing total disinterest in them.
I just assume no one is attracted to me, I'm not exactly physically fit.
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