have you noticed men seem more timid these days? Or is it just something I'm noticing maybe?
It seems like it has always been that way to me. They only make a move, if I flirt and befriend them first and then they'll finally be like, hey want to go out sometime?
My dad had 8 of his past gfs ask him out and twice that that he didn't go out with asked him out. ALTHOUGH I would say that in some ways, in this civilized age women should make the first move more. It makes sense now. Women basically have the last say in who gets the pregnant so in some ways it makes sense in society. Now if it was during a major hardship that might be a different story but we are in a time of peace and abundance. NOT saying its easy to sift through finding what you want or anything though. But from a biological standpoint, as everything currently is women picking out their mates makes more sense atm. I could be totally wrong and you can disagree I don't know.
Good points, I just think it is whoever, doesn't have to be one or the other. Whoever wants to, I do suspect though I suffer from the I don't want to ask her out, she is beyond me and would never say yes... I wonder how many guys think that so they are afraid. That is why when I make the first move they get excited and will eventually be like, whoa she is cool I think I'll ask her out.
yeah i think thats the case for lots too. And I'm not saying guys should stop asking girls out. But at the same time I think more girls should be asking guys out too. Lots of guys are pretty dense anyways. I basically used to need girls to spell it out for my in HS. And yeah that mentality you mentioned was me in my teens. It's very difficult these days for both sides. You are starting to see trends where guys reject girls who ask them out too like that's a new cool. Where it used to be cool to sleep around as a guy. I don't know wtf has happened to this world yo! lol If it's not one extreme it's another. But I think most guys would be very happy to get asked out by girls, sure. I know I always felt special when they did because that wasn't the norm.
This is my hope, to get out of that world and onto the marriage one... and never look back :) Maybe my current will be the one, here's to hoping for 2022.
same. Fingers crossed, yes?
I've noticed a lot more guys today have become very timid. They won't approach anymore. Some others who might have the courage also won't because of the new ideologies they've adopted. I think both sexes need to get with it and be mentally prepared to make the first move as the dating paradigm has shifted so much over the lay few decades. Girls never had an issue asking my dad out. Some of them aggressively pursued him too. Life's too short for games and regrets. If you want something you just gotta go for it.
They're scared of getting done for sexual harassment.
That, getting called creepy, some rejections are pretty harsh too tbh, and some girls get really snotty and act entitled because they're inches deep in thick make up and hair product. Like... at the end of the day you still eat , breath, shit, sleep, and I highly doubt you walk on water, so y'know... some humility. Honestly it's hilarious though. Sone girls walking around like a KK clone so they think they'll land Mr. Moneybags... like no it doesn't work that way lol. Ofc not saying you. I know you don't fall into that category.
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see i've been asked out 5 or 6 times in my life and i didn't get that impression. Usually its the way they dress and behave that gives me those vibes. Like a girl making vulgar statements when we met like 10 minutes ago? yeah, pass. A conservative dress for me goes a long way.
That makes sense
Actually yes. 👍
why are you apologizing? lol
I know some guys don’t like that
i mean I ask girls out, I've been asked out. its no big thing. everyone has a preference.