Mental health is no joke, but being selfless is a key recipe for marriage. I prioritize my wife all the time. The kicker is she does the same. This is the only way it works in my opinion.
@Not_Average I placed her above caring for myself. If she needed me, I dropped everything for her. I pushed aside my needs to satisfy her. If I did something for myself, I felt incredibly selfish. I agree with being selfless, but it should have limits.
I think that’s a flawed approach. All of those things are great, and the right woman would cherish those traits. It’s not so much about holding back your selflessness, but rather finding a woman who would cherish it and reciprocate that back. If a woman cares about your well-being, then she would make sure that she wouldn’t ever put in you in a situation in which you’re consistently not taking care of yourself. She would be giving just as much back, if not, more at times. Just have a bit of experience. The selfless approach with no fear has really changed everything for me. Just have to choose wisely. If she compromised your mental health, and won’t change, then she’s most likely not the right woman. You made the right decision to leave. Don’t let that rob your future relationships though.
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