Ladies, so I worked with this girl and really like her. We've hung out a couple times - I don't know whether or not to call them "dates." Anyway, I have moved to a new town for school but would like to keep seeing her. Last week I tried to see if she was available to meet up sometime, but she had things going on. She had told me a while back that she had some things going on this weekend but maybe she could slip out for a bit. Anyway, I'm going back for the weekend and asked if she wanted to hang out acknowledging she had other things going on. Her answer was "possibly." I didn't press for a definitive answer. My issue is that if she is interested, she would at least suggest another time we could get together. I figured by giving her an out by saying I know she had other things going on that she could just say "no" if she's not interested. I feel like she is stringing me along. Any advice?
And in general, do girls intentionally do this to guys and string them along? If it's unintentional, have you at least realized you've done it - even after-the-fact?
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I'm not sure if I would say she's exactly stringing you along, as much as she is responding to your suggestions to hang out in a polite (for lack of a better word) way...
For me, when I'm into a guy, no matter how busy I am, I'll figure out a way to hang out with him. Or, if it's really not possible, I'll apologize but let him know that I DO really want to hangout but I just can't. Especially knowing that he could give up and move on.
It doesn't seem like this girl is entirely invested in hanging out with you. Leave it be for now and actively search out other girls. If she does initiate contact with you, then you'll know she's interested.
Hope that helped! : )0