Pitiful.. if he's too poor for an official date, meet at a park, have a chat first, then tell her your saving money because your in between jobs and have a great reason why,. when there is so many jobs out there..
The reality is that everyone has different morals, values, etc. Talk about it. It's very rare that two people have the exact same expectations, one of you is going to have the "Wait, what" moment sooner or later. If you don't like how he does things and he's not open to change; Next.
I think if you're dating a woman with the intent of it leading somewhere then playing the game it's always been played is the best way to go. Once a relationship is on the cards it's either or, I'll take a partner out, partners have took me out but 99% of the time it's a 50/50 thing. I'd only have an issue of the relationship was confirmed but I'm still paying for every single night out as if it it's expected because I'm the man and she's the woman. We don't live in that world anymore
Well I think it's pretty strange for a man to ask the girl to pay for the entire bill.. during the first day it is the best to pay for everything yourself and after that if the girl wants to help you pay half of it I suppose it's okay but I would never ask her to pay for everything.
Sweetheart you need to screen these guys better. This is awful!!! No they should be paying they’re taking you out!! Can I ask you what you see in these guys why you’re going out with them?
Well he’s actually the most mature & well mannered guy I’ve gone out with, & he was actually really formal from the start & paid on the first date so I assumed that’s how he always is. If I had known he was like that from the start obviously I wouldn’t have gone out with him or been attracted to him. But yeah it’s not this behaviour that attracted me to him, it was his good behaviour at the start that drew me to him, & after this second date we ended things
He asked you out and picked the place. He should've paid. Or before actually planning, he should've told you if you're okay with paying for the second date. What if you didn't have money on you that time? Nah red flag 🚩
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You should have said "I'm not the one that invited you"... and when he said he used his work bank account you should have said "does this look like work? It's not my fault you're irresponsible with money!"
Think that’s what needs to start happening, because odds are she is just going on a sat because she wants a nice dinner and has no intention of dating.
Nowadays it’s like that my boyfriend is a really good guy and he does this too so I would still give him a chance. Now it’s expected for couples to split the bill.
He took the initiative to plan the date and ask you out so he should pay. Blindsiding you once the date is over isn’t really cool. If I ask a guy out and I want to see him and plan a date, I would make it my treat. In dating it shouldn’t always be a guy paying but he initiated the date. Then, if it went well on the next time you guys want to see each other, you could plan the date and say I’ve got this.
Personally I always expect it to be 50/50 regardless of who asked who. However, if the person who invited me on a date offers to pay the whole bill I won't fight them on it.
I never asked they just paid, suppose they didn't have a choice if they wanted to drink as I couldn't legally back then
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in these times i feel like it's understandable. inflation sucks.
next time i feel like you two (whoever you're dating next) should talk about how you're going to split the bill before ordering. that way no surprises.
Yeah that’s kinda similar to what I ended up doing actually. Well I didn’t ghost him, but I paid that day & we chose not to continue seeing each other.
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Pitiful.. if he's too poor for an official date, meet at a park, have a chat first, then tell her your saving money because your in between jobs and have a great reason why,. when there is so many jobs out there..
Unless it is discussed beforehand, the asker should assume that he or she will be paying.
Yeah that’s how I usually think of it too
The reality is that everyone has different morals, values, etc. Talk about it. It's very rare that two people have the exact same expectations, one of you is going to have the "Wait, what" moment sooner or later. If you don't like how he does things and he's not open to change; Next.
I think if you're dating a woman with the intent of it leading somewhere then playing the game it's always been played is the best way to go. Once a relationship is on the cards it's either or, I'll take a partner out, partners have took me out but 99% of the time it's a 50/50 thing. I'd only have an issue of the relationship was confirmed but I'm still paying for every single night out as if it it's expected because I'm the man and she's the woman. We don't live in that world anymore
Well I think it's pretty strange for a man to ask the girl to pay for the entire bill.. during the first day it is the best to pay for everything yourself and after that if the girl wants to help you pay half of it I suppose it's okay but I would never ask her to pay for everything.
Sweetheart you need to screen these guys better. This is awful!!! No they should be paying they’re taking you out!! Can I ask you what you see in these guys why you’re going out with them?
Well he’s actually the most mature & well mannered guy I’ve gone out with, & he was actually really formal from the start & paid on the first date so I assumed that’s how he always is. If I had known he was like that from the start obviously I wouldn’t have gone out with him or been attracted to him. But yeah it’s not this behaviour that attracted me to him, it was his good behaviour at the start that drew me to him, & after this second date we ended things
He asked you out and picked the place. He should've paid. Or before actually planning, he should've told you if you're okay with paying for the second date. What if you didn't have money on you that time?
Nah red flag 🚩
You should have said "I'm not the one that invited you"... and when he said he used his work bank account you should have said "does this look like work? It's not my fault you're irresponsible with money!"
Whoever asked the other to come on the date should pay.
Think that’s what needs to start happening, because odds are she is just going on a sat because she wants a nice dinner and has no intention of dating.
Nowadays it’s like that my boyfriend is a really good guy and he does this too so I would still give him a chance. Now it’s expected for couples to split the bill.
He took the initiative to plan the date and ask you out so he should pay. Blindsiding you once the date is over isn’t really cool. If I ask a guy out and I want to see him and plan a date, I would make it my treat. In dating it shouldn’t always be a guy paying but he initiated the date. Then, if it went well on the next time you guys want to see each other, you could plan the date and say I’ve got this.
Personally I always expect it to be 50/50 regardless of who asked who. However, if the person who invited me on a date offers to pay the whole bill I won't fight them on it.
Yea that was pretty pathetic on his part he invited you out again so he should of paid , the fact that he asked you I would dump his ass as well lol
Yeah I ended it with him lol. He tried to plan a 3rd date & he could tell I wasn’t interested so we just ended it there
LOL did he want you to pay for his request for the 3rd date lol
No that is not right, because you should then make the picks so it fit what your willing to pay. You can't expect others to pay for your own choices.
It's normal these days no
I never asked they just paid, suppose they didn't have a choice if they wanted to drink as I couldn't legally back then
in these times i feel like it's understandable. inflation sucks.
next time i feel like you two (whoever you're dating next) should talk about how you're going to split the bill before ordering. that way no surprises.
In that situation, I would pay for it, then ghost him. Sorry if that bothers anybody, JMO!
Yeah that’s kinda similar to what I ended up doing actually. Well I didn’t ghost him, but I paid that day & we chose not to continue seeing each other.
The guy should be a man and pay for all of the dates.
I see people do this a lot but I'm old school I'll always pay I feel if a guy can't afford to pay then he shouldn't be dating