It's important to note that the statement "men naturally see women as objects" is a contested and controversial idea, and it is not supported by all scientific research or by feminist theory. While it is true that some men may exhibit sexist or objectifying attitudes towards women, it is not accurate or fair to make sweeping generalizations about all men based on the actions or beliefs of a few individuals.
In terms of identifying whether a man is sexist or not, it can be helpful to look for specific behaviors or attitudes that may indicate a lack of respect or equality towards women. Some common signs of sexism include:
- Using derogatory or objectifying language to describe women
- Making assumptions about women based on their appearance or gender
- Refusing to take no for an answer or disregarding a woman's boundaries
- Belittling or dismissing women's opinions or accomplishments
- Insisting on traditional gender roles or expecting women to fulfill domestic duties
Of course, it's important to remember that everyone is different, and it's not always easy to tell whether someone is sexist or not based on their behavior alone. It's also worth noting that some men may exhibit sexist attitudes without even realizing it, due to cultural conditioning or other factors.
Ultimately, the best way to avoid dating sexist men is to prioritize your own safety and well-being, and to trust your instincts when it comes to identifying red flags or warning signs. It's also important to communicate openly and assertively with potential partners about your boundaries and expectations, and to be willing to walk away from any situation that doesn't feel safe or respectful.
From where you are from, if you know about the family background of a guy, it'll give you an idea.
Usually guys raised from traditional perspective will have some amount of sexism in them
I don't have much experience with dating because I haven't dated many people, but I do have a lot of acquaintances with different attitudes and values. I *think* I can give you a rough idea on the type of guys you might want to avoid, considering we're from the same country.
Now, as far as I know, you're not traditional, so you might want to avoid all guys who are religious because most of them tend to be conservative and believe in the 50s style of living, ie, a woman being a homemaker and not working etc. Also, make sure that the guy you date is flexible and is willing to compromise. You can easily find out on the very first date, or the second date. Notice how he treats you, and the way he talks about women. If he is sexist, I am pretty sure he would dismiss your opinions and belittle you. Don't move too fast, or you won't know their true colors. Know what you're getting into before you decide anything.
If he casually says something that starts with "all women are..." dump his ass. 7/10 times, this type of guys are effing dumb and sexist.
Ask him what he thinks about feminism and gender equality.
Most guys in my social circle are gentlemen. I know for a fact that they are not sexist just by observing the way they treat me. Most gen z guys are cool, it's mostly men from the older generations who tend to be sexist.
Watch his patterns and micro expressions. I notice that sexist men Iâve dated donât really listen when I speak and make a weird fake smile at me if I donât explain something really well. They also might ask you âtrivialâ questions to âsee how you think.â Also if they bring up things like âI love a woman who cooks. Itâs sexy as hellâ but doesnât really mention other qualities about women that he admires that donât pertain to doing something for him. Theyâll usually underestimate you. Youâll get a vibe in the first conversation. Reject their questions if they ask you things to test your knowledge. Itâs condescending. I have an engineering degree and worked on Wall Street, yet some idiot guy didnât think I could understand what he meant when he was talking about the overlap between neuroscience and machine learning. Itâs to undermine you and make you insecure. Donât entertain it. And also conversations about sex or how you look are to be avoided as well. If he can only compliment your body then thatâs all he sees you as.
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You cannot accurately determine if a man is sexist or not. However, I can provide some general guidance on how to identify potentially problematic attitudes or behaviors.
1. Pay attention to his language: If he uses derogatory terms to refer to women, dismisses their opinions or belittles their achievements, or talks about them in objectifying ways, it could be a red flag.
2. Watch for controlling behavior: If he insists on making all the decisions in a relationship or attempts to dictate what you should wear, who you should talk to, or where you should go, it could be a sign of problematic behavior.
3. Look for signs of entitlement: If he expects you to do certain things for him or assumes that you will take on certain responsibilities, without any regard for your own desires or needs, it could be a sign of a sexist mindset.
4. Consider his views on gender roles: If he believes that certain activities or professions are only suitable for one gender, or that men are inherently better than women at certain things, it could be a sign of a sexist mindset.
5. Be wary of men who dismiss feminist ideas: If he shows no interest in or dismisses the idea of gender equality and the fight for women's rights, it could be a sign of a problematic mindset.
Incels by definition, do not connect with women well, hate women as a result, and hate men that are able to attract women. So if you want to weed out incels, keep an eye out for men that don't communicate well. Some men will be a but shy, especially today, and especially if you are attractive, but the but a lack of communication skills is typically a tell tale sign. I would also say that you should already know what characteristics in a man that you are looking for. Doing so will by default wee don't men that are incels. Good luck.
So sometimes it's blatantly obvious when a man is sexist or an incel, it kinda shows loudly.
However some of the times it's subtle or they intentionally hide to deceive you. In those cases, look out for the smaller signs of the language they use regarding women, opinions they have etc. No one can hide their true personality for too long so their sexism will show itself sooner or later if it exists.
Just make sure that you look at it objectively if it shows up in a later state. Don't let the previous niceness from them cloud the fact that the toxic signs are showing now and act accordingly.
Okay for starters, women objectify themselves, we don't have to do anything for this to happen. I love it when my girls dress provocatively and sexy in front of me. I don't have an issue with women literally going on cameras and screens half naked. Hollywood and magazines often show women half naked. Really it's not a problem. You are afraid of accepting that women have a natural slutty and kinky nature inside and that's going to be a major problem for you sexually down the line with your partner.
The other thing I wanted to say is it is because of women like you that the men you fear most are actually not even going to bother trying to do anything with you. Incels do not want to date women. So any guy you actually get is actually not going to be an incel.
One thing I've noticed is most sexist men won't really have conversations with women. They'll have conversations at women, or around women. But they really only talk with and to other men.
This can also apply to men they see as lesser in some way. He's younger, less masculine, a different race etc (because that -ism often correlates with sexism).
But men of the same "status" as them, they won't talk down to or ignore in conversations. That's what makes it different from something like autism or adhd where you may just have trouble having a balanced conversation with anyone. So it can be hard to tell until you've been around them around other people, too.
This doesn't apply to all sexist men, but I've yet to meet someone it applies to that is not a sexist man.
Take it slow. Just bring up topics as they arise. Be honest about how certain actions make you feel and ask what his intentions are.
Listen to how he talks to and about the women in his life. Really listen. Bring up questions every day where you present something problematic and get his take. Throw him whatever you're thinking or noticing and let him respond.
This is gonna piss some people off 😂
Really what it comes down to is what you have to offer in a relationship. If you're sweet, caring, attentive and forgiving, you'll attract good men who will reward your efforts with the love you deserve.
But if you've got a nice ass and pair of tits, but you're otherwise a complete fucking cunt, you'll attract men who will use you for your only good qualities.
Stew on that for a moment, before you block me
Listen to what they say and how they word things and you can also definitely ask questions and see how they answer.
It's actually pretty easy find that out with the first few conversations
The bad news is I don´t think you can. The reason is that thinking less off women many guys don´t show off in public since they know it´s something not to brag with. I think you´ll have to spend a guy to figure out if he´s sexist or not.
In any dating profile just put on your profile any of the basic feminist talking points. And they will avoid dating you.
Always start out as friends get to know them before entering a relationship with them.
Listen to their words carefully. It gets easier when you know what to listen for.
They're easy to spot. The way they talk about women in any derogatory manner including blaming feminism or feminists is a simple indicator.
You'll usually find one when you see one.
There is no way to completely avoid sexist men (or women). You just have to use your judgment and trust your instincts. The guy you quoted is obviously an asshole, but the good news is most guys are not like that.
Simple. Expect his dong is not 0.5 inches and leave him alone
A good step is to not be a bitch to begin with. Thatâs always a good start. Also what that man wrote isnât a lie. Men see women as objects until they get to know them. What do you expect? Just remember feminism only exists because men made life so easy. Women arenât as capable as men.
If he treats you like an object, he probably sees you as one. Only date a man who listens to you and respects your boundaries.
To avoid masculine men, stay in your Demotard echo chamber with the chicken-legged soy boys.
When you decide that it is real men who give you the tingles, go to a Trump rally.
it's all ignorance where in their warped mind they feel superior and entitled which is a croc of sh*t
I suppose formulate some test questions that you can incorporate into the conversation.
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