So him and I have been good friends since freshmen year in high school (we're seniors now). We've always had feelings for each other/been attracted to each other but we don't want to ruin our friendship. He's the type that always has a girlfriend. I'm the oppisite, I'm more the independent girl, I just don't like any of the guys at my school enough to go out with them. So the most recent time he's told me that he likes me is last year before school ended, he said that he still has feelings for me (despite having a girlfriend that he claims to LOVE). And I don't want to get in between them. I'm not that type of girl. I may like him but that doesn't mean I'm going to go after him and be all flirty (he's the big flirt). And he asked me if I wanted to hang out..he texted me this on Saturday at 8pm...I'm not sure WHERE we would hang out (NOT at his house...), but first I'm decided whether or not I'm even going to hang out with him. I feel like I'm betraying a fellow girl if I hang out with him. Because I know I'd be upset if I had a boyfriend and he went to the movies with another girl, even if it's just his friend. So I want to know everyones opinion on this, it sucks that I can't hang out with a best friend but I also don't want to seem like a slut who hangs out with guys who have boyfriends. (I'm the complete opposite!) So what should I do? Should I let her know, where should we hang out if at all? Any advice please? Thanks ahead of time.
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Simple, the reason you are feeling you are excluding this girl from her relationships is because you ARE excluding her from your hangouts. Many people would disagree with me, but I think if you wish to be friends with nothing in between, then be just that. Offer for his girlfriend to hangout when you two next meetup, get to know her and don't make her feel threatened. When you hangout, head over to the movies, or hell, go the museum or do something exciting like rock climbing!1