When I just started dating my boyfriend, I noticed one day that he had a panty in his bathroom (and this made me look for the soap in his restroom. Lo and behold, there was a long strand of straight black hair too).
I kept quiet. When he entered the bathroom, he noticed the panty and acted all surprised.
"Oh my god, there's an underwear hanging on my door." Is what he said.
"Yeah. I know." Is what I said in reply.
I told him to explain to me where that underwear came from. He said he didn't know, but he should probably ask his dad. When I asked him to do that, he said that his dad was busy. I told him to ask again, because I didn't like what I saw.
When we were leaving his apartment, his dad came out. My boyfriend asked him to tell me about the underwear. Now, it didn't really help that I was stoned and tired, but I thought I heard his dad call him a "liar".
We didn't speak when he was driving me back.
The next morning I received a call from his dad, saying that the underwear was his, and that he had a "friend" over (hence why the underwear was there). He also added that his son has really toned down on going out and getting wild when he became my boyfriend, and as a joke he added that "[my boyfriend] is crying".
My boyfriend on the other hand, sent me a heart-melting sms about how he didn't want to lose me, and that he didn't want to jeopardize what we've "both grown to have".
Thing is, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months now (as I've obviously bought what he said). And I am not sure whether what he and his dad were saying was true.
Another reason why I rode with it was because my boyfriend really really is sweet. He comes over to see me if he can find time, and we communicate well. We've ended up growing very comfortable around each other. We love each other, and we are very happy. He says he has plans for us, and appreciates that I am more laid back than his previous girlfriends.
I really really would appreciate some advice on how I can go about this, or some input on what they think, because if he cheated on me, then I want out. No one wants to be with a bag of sh*t.
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There is no way to prove he cheated, unless he is the only man in that house.1