How to start dating again after not dating for 8 years?

[Anonymous]

How to open myself up again?
How to know if a guy wants to approach me?
How to know if a guy wants me to approach him?
How to look available?
Places to go other than the bar to potentially meet someone?

[incorrected]

Most men don't approach anymore. The dynamics shifted radically after #MeToo and the general messaging of Feminism and women has been to leave them alone, so now most guys leave women alone. Nobody wants to lose their job because they got reported to HR for approaching while ugly, and that kind of jazz.

Hobbies and dating sites are about all there is. Women don't incur the same risks for approaching men though, so you CAN risk cold approach in basically any situation, you just need the courage to do it.

[Benlovegs]

They say there is nothing better then a woman’s intuition so listen to your mind and take things slow. The rules have definitely changed but that doesn’t mean you need to agree with everything that’s going on out there these days. Respect, modesty and intelligence never expire😎

[Asker]

Love your opinion. Thank you!

[Abbycado]

Go out with a group of friends. It’ll ease the tension. As for where, I met my boyfriend at school, so that isn’t going to be helpful.

My experience is that guys are not really afraid to approach. At least most of them aren’t.

[Nikki1989]

How did you last 8 years?

I wouldn't last 8 weeks.

[Avicenna]

Meet guys in more ordinary social environments than bars

[bowenw]

Talk to guys wherever you happen to be. Try joining some clubs that are geared for both men and women. Hang out in coffee shops, libraries, swimming pools, sporting events, or whatever interests you to meet people. Dress appropriately for where you're going and smile.

[MasterKS]

first mentally be open, approachable and available.