I'll call EX boyfriend, who still for some reason considers himself to be my boyfriend, has been seeing another woman he met online (like he met me over a year ago) in October. She lives closer to him (15 mins) compared to me living an hour away.....so she is more accessible.
He hates the fact that I discovered their relationship (in October) and I now on occasion I do say sarcastic things when he stops calling me a day or two because I know he is at her place or she's with him at his place. Plus they go to restaurants and the movies and even to Atlantic City I know at least once. But when he is alone and not with her, he calls and emails me as though all is well and I am the only one in his life.
I sent him an email letting him know I want to not see him at all for awhile......we have not been intimate since October either. He wants both of us but he says he cares 'so much for me' and I feel that she offers him what I don't but he won't talk about 'our relationship' and what is not working in order to even give me a chance. He is 60 and I am 53 and this other woman is about 57 or 58. He does not work and is on work disability due to a shoulder injury back in 2005 but maybe going back to work this year, and this other woman is retired and a widow has money, drives a Lexus, nice house and can get anything or any man she wants to be with.
He spent the day before Xmas eve and Xmas eve up until late afternoon with her........then calls me to come spend the rest of Xmas eve (which he had asked about the previous week), with me and I was very angry because I knew he was with her and I was very sarcastic and not in a good mood, but he came. He gave me a very nice Xmas present and we had dinner and he stayed and left the day after Xmas.
So for New year's eve...I just knew that he would be with her and not with me and of course he was with her for the eve I think but for New year's day for sure. Now he wants to still ask me to go with him to shoot photography with him (and the new camera he bought me) soon...I sent an email back to him today saying that Springtime of maybe mid March or early April would be a good time. He has not seen my email yet though. But I don't want to talk to him nor see him anytime soon. I told him that he could contact me to keep in touch by email only. Why does he insist on wanting to still be with me but he really does not want to be intimate with me nor not want to let the other woman go either?
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Why haven't you cut him off already? I wouldn't even stay friends via email. He's wanting to have his cake and eat it too. You're not holding him responsible for his actions. He'll continue stringing you along for as long as you allow him too. He's delusional if he thinks he's your boyfriend but tells you he's seeing someone else!2