I guess I just need to do this to get a few things off my chest. Anyone is welcome to comment.
So I really don't know why, but why is it that every time I start liking a girl (and seemingly the start to like me too) they end up shying away from me. What am I doing that is wrong? I know I am not ugly. And I'm a really good person, like I respect everyone, I try to achieve perfection through my mind and body. I just don't understand.
I see girls go after these low lives, and me, they won't give me the chance to show that I am a really good guy. It depresses me. I wish someone would tell me what I need to change.
Then even when I get a girlfriend, they end up leaving me for the lowlife who dumped them. What do I need to do to start getting girls?
Now I know girls will start saying "maybe its the way you dress, you body? Your personality?" But all that is really good. I take care in the way I look and dress. I work out 4 times a week, and I'm like the sweetest guy someone will meet. But I do have a rough side to me as well.
What more can I offer?
I wish someone would tell me, why is it that when I meet girls, they will show GREAT interest and then just shy away. And when I talk to them l8er they still say they like me. I don't want to look like I'm annoying by keep contacting them. But I ALWAYS make the first move.
Please, I will be appreciative to the person who gives me the life changing advice that I desire.
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1. So I really don't know why, but why is it that every time I start likeing a girl (and seemingly the start to like me too) they end up shying away from me.
^ Perhaps because she didn't like you so when she realized you liked her she shied away because she doesn't return the feelings.
2. What am I doing that is wrong? Possibilities:
You're ugly...most guys don't think they're ugly in fact studies show men more often than women overrate their appearance
You're average..most people want an attractive or more attractive partner
You're average and go after attractive women or women more attractive than you...it's typical guy behavior an OKcupid study showed that 2/3 of male messages go to 1/3 of women those women being the most attractive ones.
You're incompatible with the girls you go after or are attracted to
You think it's being a good person not being someone they are attracted to will get you a girl
You're boring...what makes you unique
You don't know how to talk to girls
You're not social
You're not confident
3. What do I need to do to start getting girls? Stop thinking there's something you need to do. You get girls by the girl being attracted to you.
If girls aren't attracted to you it means you're unattractive, uninteresting, or you're bland aka common and easily replaceable so they aren't interested.
Get an honest evaluation of your looks
Go after girls in your league
Start checking out if the girls you are attracted to keep going after low lifes that's your problem. The problem being you are attracted to girls who aren't attracted to you. The problem being you're attracted to or go after girls who want low lives.
4. What more can I offer? Hobbies, interests, knowledge, skills, talents, a social life?
Do you have any of that. All you have is not ugly, well dressed, work out, and you're decent.
Lots of other guys have that and even more.