I'm 31 and the guy I was dating is 40. We were dating intensely, seeing each other 3x/week. He would send me cute msgs when he was thinking of me during the day. On New Year's Eve we exchanged xmas gifts because I had been away (though we were in contact every day). He included a card saying he looked forward to us having good times together in 2009.
We had a nice night out NYE and spent 11 hours together the next day. All conflict free and all with him extending the time by saying - let's do this, movie, go to my friends etc. In fact we were planning a wknd trip which would be in 2 weeks which was his idea.
Then on Friday he comes to tell me he is having serious doubts. It turns out he has had a history of commitment problems and while he doesn't know we will work out long term, he is having a huge gut reaction with doubts.
Is it normal for a guy to come out of nowhere? Don't breakups usually come preceded by a withdrawal, less time together, less sex? Bizarre?
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Some people freak out because things are going TOO well. They break it off and run away at the drop of a hat. Others let it peter out. It's different for everyone. This guy seems to have some commitment issues of some sort. I think it would be wise to leave this guy alone. Dealing with people who are hot and cold like this is not ideal and can take it's toll on you emotionally.0
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