On Friday night, I went to a fundraiser for one of my university's newspapers. My friend Natalie is on the organizing committee, and wanted me to buy a ticket, so I went. Anyway, earlier that week, Natalie had met a guy on the bus... They'd swapped numbers, and she'd invited him to come to this event too -- as her date. But somehow, Alan (Natalie's date) and I ended up talking for most of the night (it wasn't at all flirtatious; we were just having a really good conversation)... That is, until I went to the washroom and he was nowhere to be found.
The next day, I added him to Facebook, 'cause I'd had a really great time talking to him but hadn't thought to ask for his number. I posted on his wall and said "Hey! It was so nice meeting you the other night... I was sad that I didn't get to say goodbye! Hope you're having a great weekend!" to which he replied, in a private message: "Ya it was nice to meet you too. Thanks for being so nice and hanging out with the new guy. Sorry I had to leave so abruptly. I got my phone back and realized how late it was. I really wished I could have spent some more time with you and at least said good bye..."
I sent him my number and suggested that we hang out. He texted me the next day, and our conversation went as follows:
Him: I had a great time talking to you last week. We really should hang out sometime. Did you have anything in mind? I'm often working downtown, so I can always meet you after work or something.
Me: Awesome! I'm up for anything... Skating, coffee, bank-robbing... Whatever :P What's your schedule like?
Him: Well I'm downtown for work Tuesday to Thursday and I have Monday and Friday off, usually. Would you like to meet up on Friday?
Me: Friday would be great! I have class from 2:30-4, but I'm free before or after that...
Him: How does after class sound?
Me: Perfect! So maybe at around 5? I'm not sure what you had in mind...
Him: How about we say, tentatively, that we go get a drink... And between now and then we can think of what to do after that?
Me: Great! I can't wait... So I'll meet you somewhere downtown at 5-ish? We can figure out the details on Thursday or Friday, I guess! See you soon...
Him: That sounds great :) See you soon.
...and that's the last I've heard from him...
I find him really interesting and attractive, but I'm not sure if he's into me THAT way, or if this is just a "lets be friends" thing. I don't want to go into it with the wrong mindset, you know?!
Any input is welcome! Thanks guys :)
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For the most part I look at dates as "hangouts" in the beginning. No need to try to make it more serious than it is, he's a guy you don't know very well that you want to hang out with.
On another note, how does your friend Natalie feel about you swooping in on her date? lol0