Let me elaborate please before all the sexist get worked up.
I've only dated one guy my entire life, we're still together but I've always been curious about this.
I think if I started dating again even, god forbid lol
That I would prefer to pay for my own meals, at first at least
It would make me more comfortable at first, I wouldn't mind him paying sometimes after we moved into the actual dating phase. And by the way I like chivalrous men , door being opened , being treated like a woman all the nice things like that but I'm not sure I want a guy I just went out on a date with once to be spending money on me just yet.
Would it be a problem for most guys and have you ever went on a date with a girl that did this ?
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Honestly it is a turn off. I got into a huge fight with an ex about this and I think it's one of the biggest reasons we broke up. On dates the guy always pays, it's the way I was raised I guess. If a girl won't let me pay it's very awkward and I feel almost rejected by her. Me paying is my way of saying I like her and want to treat her like a princess and think she deserves to be treated like a princess. If she won't let me pay it's like she is rejecting the action I use to show her I like her and therefore rejecting me.
If you want to show the guy you also appreciate him surprise him with presents (like concert tickets, movies, or whatever he's into) but let him pay on dates if he insists. You can also cook for him if you're hanging out at your house or if you can't cook well order in food before he gets there so it just shows up when he's there and tell him I figured we would get hungry so I ordered food. On formal dates at restaurants the guy always pays though.2
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