So...chasing the guy can be a turn off I guess, for not letting him do "the work", but what if I stop chasing him and maybe he calls again? or you would never try any contact with her again?
I think is OK to chase, not like a psycho, so he can see I'm interested too, but maybe is not a good idea?
What do you guys think?
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I don't think it's a turn off at all. The problem is that if he isn't interested he's not going to become interested by you chasing him. Or at least it's not likely he will.
In my opinion there is no need for all these games. If the girl makes her intentions clear it will clear out weeks if not months or years of frustration on the guy's part of wondering if the girl likes him or whether he has a chance.
Since most guys are used to having to show their intentions towards girls, when girls do the chasing themselves they are usually really successful. Guys think "wow she's into me this is really easy"
The only problem comes that some guys will respond to that sort of "power" of having the girl interested in them by realizing they don't need to do anything at all. This backfires a lot because it can get misinterpreted as there being no interest. So if a girl does the chasing, she should either be somewhat subtle about it (while still being clear) or she should go all out and initiate most of everything. If she initiates in the beginning and he decides he has you already, you're going to have to continue the chase. At that point if you are looking for him to initiate or call or whatever you're just destined to lose.2