There's this girl. She told me last Thursday night that she had a big crush on me and wanted me to ask her out, and I said I liked her too and we should go out. Since then, we had been texting almost nonstop.
Well Friday morning, she had to friend zone her best guy friend. He didn't take it too well and started messaging her a ton on Facebook. She basically kept telling him to leave her alone. He was acting really weird at work Saturday and Sunday. I told someone Monday to go check on him, and he said the guy was gonna come play basketball. Tuesday we learn he got into a car crash on Monday trying to kill himself.
I went with this girl to the hospital to see him. We couldn't see him, and I calmed the girl down and convinced her it wasn't her fault. We made out a little after she dropped me off at my car. That night we hung out with some other friends. She seemed fine and happy again. We ended up making out again when no one was around.
So yesterday we went to happy hour with a couple others. We made the plans Tuesday, but I got the sense she didn't want me there. She texted me something like "It's all girls. I understand if you don't wanna come." We I got there, we went outside and she told me she feels guilty for seeing me while the guy is in the hospital. She stayed a little longer, but left because she said she wasn't feeling good. I texted her saying I'm cool with everything and she should take her time and just let me know if/when she's ready.
So now I'm holding a lot of resentment toward this guy. I've never had anything serious with a girl and I really like this girl, and I feel like he screwed everything up for me. Am I a complete @sshole for thinking that? And do you think me and the girl can fight through this?
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I hate how girls do this. They get all guilty about everything and it bogs down the relationship. Your right it isn't her fault he got in a car accident. You guys just need to do what makes you happy regardless if he likes it or not. Don't go rubbing it in his face, but you are not required to hide your relationship for his sake. Keep things low key and give her space until things cool down a bit. It's hard to say whether or not she'll eventually snap out of it. Hopefully she won't break up with you because she thinks a relationship with you will cause to much drama with this other guy in the picture.0