great in depth answer! thank you :)
when a guy wants to be with someone he knows. it usually doesn't just "come from nowhere" either. it usually comes after at least a little time. or after getting to know the girl on some level. you don't need to date someone to know that you like them.
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good honest answer :) thanks
love freak stalker? that's a little harsh don't you think?
why would you even feel that way? if you could go a little deeper into it that would be great :)
It's hard to explain but I was in a situation like this...Don't get me wrong, I know I'd make him happy and I don't have self worth issues or anything...but I had so much "stuff" going on and my life was really stressful at the time (family stuff, school stuff, job stuff, etc.) so I pushed him away to spare...I wanted better for him.
And us guys don't have the same things to deal with? we do... so that isn't really any excuse in my opinion.
I know everyone has stress in life but I just didn't want him to be bothered with it. I know it seems like a cop out excuse but trust me...it wasn't :\I knew he would be OK and eventually find a nice girl who had an easier life so I pushed him away.When you care about someone, you put them first.. and that's what I did. I spared him.
if someone likes you they're willing to put up with things in your life too, if you allow them to be there for you. as long as you're being your best self, there should be no reason to feel ashamed of your stresses in life.
You're right :| ... and I have to live with my decisions and I take full responsibility for why things went wrong... live and learn I guess.Just saying, that's the only reason I would act like that towards a good guy.
did this sort of thing happen to you with a good guy?
why not try and patch things up?
He probably thinks I'm a jerk.Maybe one day I'll must up the courage to apologize but for now I'll just let him move on and I'll do the same.
wow what happened exactly?
Nothing really dramatic but for a while I wasn't sure if he liked me and as soon as I started to.. realize ...I pushed away. I don't think he does anymore but it's probably better that way. Oh well. He's a good guy and I know he'll find a good girl. There's no hard feelings or anything, things just quietly died out. *btw I think I posted this comment up top as a new answer but it's not* oops
but you can be that good girl! ...and not a problem with the extra answer lol.
lol I don't know... I just have to man up and explain myself but I don't want to lol. I'm not expecting him to wait around or anything. He's moved on so good for him.
its scary isn't it? :/
even before your falling out? did something about him scare or intimidate you?
sometimes I found it really hard to look him in the eyes o.0 he sometimes had like an "intense" look...idk how to describe it lol. Really, he's so kind though, I wouldn't describe him as mean or scary or anything like that. I was more afraid of the entire situation and all the possibilities.
like almost that you could tell it was for real between you two?
right...I hadn't ever... "liked" someone before him. I could recognize other guys as attractive or whatever but I didn't actually... "like" them, if that makes sense. stuff gets realll scary when you realize you genuinely care for someone.
I agree. do you think most other girls feel this way in these situations too?
I don't think this fear is gender specific... I'd think girls and guys would both get scared when this happen?
I'm aware that some guys are like this too. they usually just aren't interested. other times they might not be good guys in the first place, or they may even take advantage of the opportunity and use a naive girl that likes them for sex, or lead her on for a while.
i think that's a really simple way of seeing things, but either way my point is both do it.
thank you for your honesty. some girls are in fact, like this. a lot of girls would just dismiss me as another bitter guy that doesn't know what he's talking about.