Ive been feeling really embarrassed and awkward about the way me and my ex broke up... he called things off and I clung on like the silly idiot and basically caused it to be quite messy and painful.
We haven spoken for about a year and we have a ton of mutual friends... I am completely over him now, I don't want a relationship but I kind of feel like I should message him apologizing once and for all about the way I acted... is this a stupid idea or do you think it will give me closure?
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I can't help but feeling that you have "ulterior motives". It doesn't seem like you really only want to apologize. Maybe you aren't consciously aware of your real motives yourself, so I suggest you take some time to think about this thoroughly.
In general (regardless whether you really only want to apologize or not), I'd say it's not a good idea. Surely, he knows you're sorry. You're not the first woman to act like a silly idiot when dumped, and you won't be the last. After a year, he surely knows how to take that and doesn't need or want an apology. Also, I don't understand why you say you need closure when you also say you're "completely over him". Try to figure out what it really is what you want.0