My boyfriend I guess is dating me because he likes the company and we get along. I am kind of attracted to him but he's not attracted to me at all and is obsessed with me trying to loose weight. I am having trouble loosing weight and he's been getting upset about this. Has anyone else had this issue?
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I know how you feel...my ex husband always called me a fat ass and pressured me to lose weight...never loved me for just me! It was always conditional and he always wanted to change/control, something about me. In the long run I was miserable and wound up gaining more weight! @237 pounds nearly 100 pounds over weight (a size 18) I met my current husband. He fell in love with me. I am very attractive even with the extra weight and my guy is gorgeous, he is very healthy and fit as well. I have lost 45 pound over the past four years (got pregnant and breasted our son for 6 mos so that halted the weight loss a bit but my point is this. I lost it on my own for me with no pressure and it was effortless. I know my husband would love for me to be physically fit for so many reasons, what guy wouldn't BUT he has never once said a word to me about my weight! He encourages me to do what is right for me and praises my every success! If and when I have set backs he says something encouraging or sympathetic to cheer me up. It is a beautiful thing to be loved and accepted for who you are as you are and it is by far more motivating. I lost 5lbs this week (doing HCG diet) and have finally made it under 200lbs. I am doing this solely for me. He will benefit as well obviously but I am doing this because I am unhappy with my weight not because he wants me to or even because I think he would want me to...feel free to message me if you want a weightloss buddy...0