I don't know why, and I don't know if I'm doing it on purpose or not (if that makes any sense to you) But it seems like the worse a guy is the more I like him.
I'm eighteen and I'm in love with this guy. Who is basically an alcoholic, and I was completely aware of that going into our friendship. He doesn't know that I like him, but I really do. I like that he can opens up to me about his problems & his problems with drinking. And I listen and I glad he can talk me about that. I feel a connection to him that I can't explain, and that's the problem. That I always feel like this towards people my mom & friends would consider "bad or wrong".
I guess deep down I want to rescue him.
I feel stupid, sitting here right now worrying and thinking about him, when he's probably drunk right or trying to get with some girl and not thinking about me at all..
I know it's not healthy for me & I'll probably end up getting hurt and stepped on.
This current guy is the guy that I really love, but I've had other crushes and small things and they were all "no good" guys.
I just want to know why I am this way. And why I would feel this connection with this type of guy, does it mean something is wrong with me. I just feel like I'll end up unhappy because of this habit. what's wrong with me?
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Many men would call this the natural fault-line for the female gender.
Just like many men fall victim to a girl who will be happy to give them oral, etc.
Overall it comes down to basic human emotion. But you have to think clearly and logically, and often times the logic tears away at your emotion but you have to think what's more important. I sometimes want to brutally beat people, but I don't because I know the consequences would be too great and those emotions will pass. You must judge men the same. That feeling of love will pass if you let it.1