We just hanged out in his room, nothing sexual happened.. I did give him a massage, and rubbed his chest and abs... we were close to each other. This guy is so beautiful, it scares me. I've been told I was beautiful... but not like this guy. He is stunning. I feel like he is out of my league. While we were hanging out, he would check his phone.. but he won't text back. He seemed a little shy, cause he didn't look at my face a lot. I told him from the start. "We're not gonna hook up, I'm not that type of girl. We're just gonna hang out." He said that's cool. I guess that's why he didn't try to kiss me or make a move. I'm crushing so bad... When I left he was gonna walk me home, I told him he didn't have to. When I got home, he texted me asking me if I got home safe, I said yes. Then he started to say that he wants me to go over again, he even CALLED me, he never called me. I guess it was cause I was in bed and I didn't text back. I didn't want to give in. So I fell asleep. NOW, I can't stop thinking about him... A guy that practically blows up my phone with text and a call to "come over" after I just got home from his house. Why do you think he did that, any advice? I don't want to get attached...
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Alright, you have to be confident in yourslef. I know what it feels like doubting yourself, always asking whether or not you're worthy of a person liking you and loving you and it doesn't help. First off, good for you for stating what was most predominantly on your mind when you went over and that was no sex and he was a gentleman respecting your statement and he clearly didn't cross any boundaries with you. You being afraid he only wants one thing from you and being afraid of getting attatched is all in your hands. My best advice is to TAKE THINGS SLOW. See him again, spend time with him, most importantly, get to know him. If you take things slow and he is respectful and open and doesn't push you for sex, then you know things are going great and he doesn't just want one thing from you. When I take things slow with a girl, its usually a month and a half+ before we have sex, and in the end we know each other well enough and the experience is better because we've established a deep connection and know that we are together for many reasons.
We're all afraid of being hurt, I know what its like becoming attatched to someone and only have things fall apart later on, its painful, but the two biggest things that hurt you and others when it come to dating and relationships is believing that worthy of someone liking you and always being afraid of being hurt. Trust and believe in yourself, you women come equipped with super instict powers, most of the time you know what's going on so never doubt who you are. And being afraid of getting hurt because you got attatched...its better to experience life with hurt rather than not experience life at all because fear stopped you from acting. Do you want to pull away from this guy only to look back years later wondering what could have been between you two? Vulnerability is something few humans have the courage to show but its only times when we are vulnerable that we experience love, connection, and life1