I try not to make gender-specific rants but I'm going to go ahead and do this one. I planned a date tonight with one woman a week in advance and right after I got a response text yesterday morning from her I asked her to confirm our plans. I didn't hear from her until noon today so I canceled on her since I don't see how hard it is to check your phone and text "yes" within 24 hours. I barely know her and I didn't feel like going dateless or getting stood up on a Friday night so I feel justified canceling after she failed to get back to me. Then I planned a date with another girl for dinner and as I'm driving to the place she texts me that she can't make it because her parents won't let her leave the house (I don't get that either, she's 18, stand up for yourself once in a while). Either way she got off work at 2 so she could have warned me a lot sooner than she did. So now it is dinner time and I'm sitting in my apartment, dateless, and I can't even go hang out with my boys until later since they are all at a baseball game that I would love to be at but I thought between 2 girls I would have had a date so now I am playing Xbox until something happens. Yes I met these girls on the internet but we have been texting back and forth heavily for weeks. I don't have any guy friends that are this bad when it comes to planning dates. They always tell the girls exactly what is going to happen and they get canceled on in weird ways too. Why can’t women plan? Is it a young women thing? Am I just dating self-obsessed flakes? I would never be this flaky.
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I don't have that luxury, but I wouldn't want it anyway. Some women can plan and are excellent planners. Some young women are adept at planning. I unfortunately can't rightly say anything about the girls you're dating, though.
Two of my closest friends are horrible with plans. We took a road trip to see a friend for her birthday. They didn't know when they wanted to go, so I planned that. They didn't know what to tell her to pick up for groceries, so I helped her with that. They didn't know where everyone would stay, so I worked out that. They didn't know what to do when we got there, so I came up with activities. They couldn't even decide whether to go to the pool or eat birthday cake first without asking me - and this was after they had conveniently forgotten to let me know they were going to the pool (I was staying elsewhere while they stayed with the friend at her apartment).
I'm around the same age as the girls you're dating, for what that bit of information is worth.
Some people are inconsiderate and flaky, others are just completely miserable at planning, sticking to plans, or notifying all the people involved when they do make plans.
I have trouble deciding on things to do sometimes, but that's where communication comes into play. I may not know exactly what I want to do, but I can give my boyfriend a time frame and a few options of activities, and we'll pick something out.2