well after a year and a half of being together, I finally decided that we should break up ='(
He says he loves me but is not ready for the love that I want to have with him... He says he didn't want us to break up so soon but in light of the fact that he is unsure of what he wants we decided breaking up was best.
I guess I just need more clarity as to why guys, even with a good thing in front of them, would still have the urge to explore for more...? help
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Well, I'm sorry this happened. Sadly, I see this happening more and more and more. What you can take some SMALL comfort in is that it's not just guys doing this to girls--it's happening the other way around, too. If you ask me, I think it actually happens MORE to guys than to girls.
Why, though? I think it all boils down to pure GREED. Sure, there are MANY things that will factor into the mess, but at its core I think it's simple GREED. He has you, but maybe he thinks since he was able to get YOU, he will probably be able to get that NEXT, "BETTER" girl (HIS thoughts, not mine). Or, ESPECIALLY for guys, a girl has a guy who is just GREAT. But, she then meets one who is quite similar, but has a Gulfstream V jet, a Mercedes SLS, and a chalet in the Swiss Alps. Screw the "great guy" I already have, I want all THAT, TOO! See what I mean? It could also be that he's one of those that as soon as he gets you, the "chase" is gone, he's had his "conquest", and it's time for a new one.
There is also a fear for many people that they may be "settling". They don't want to "settle" for anything but the very best. So, they stick with one person until they find somebody "better". They go for and often get, the "better" one. A short time later, he feels as if he may be "settling", again, for an "inferior product" and begins anew.
There are just so many possibilities that it's really hard to say exactly what went on in your relationship. It's sad, I agree, and it probably hurts. But, in the end, believe me when I tell you this: THOSE kinds of guys ALWAYS come out the "loser". In ONE way girls have life by the bollocks--they can virtually sit back and basically PICK who they want. Guys, OTOH, have to make the pursuit and risk rejection. This is TRADITIONALLY the way it works and I know and realize that times are changing and girls have no problems with doing the pursuing--which is AWESOME. But, again, it's almost ALWAYS going to be the GUY who regrets doing what he did because in his effort to not "settle", he will come to realize, when it's too late, that he lost someone FANTASTIC and that he REALLY BLEW IT; while YOU have moved on and selected a guy that loves you and treats you well and you are really happy with. At least you can feel good about that--he WILL more than likely regret letting you "get away".0