Question: Do I have a right to be bothered if my wife has a man over to our house while I'm at wok. With the exception of her father or brothers.
My ex-brother-in-law met my wife over 5 years ago. (I was married to his sister who passed 9 years ago.) My new wife was his family's hair dresser. Then became good friends when he divorced. I vaguely remember him mentioning her as he was now single and dating. From my knowledge, of the situation, they never dated just really good friends. I met her about 2 years ago and she was immediately interested in meeting me. She would come to family functions and even went out to the beach 3 hours away to come visit. I was very oblivious for she was my ex-brother-in-law friend. I thought she was coming around for my niece, nephew and my e-b-I-l. Once I learned of her intentions I asked her what the history between them two. She claimed all innocence. I asked him to confirm and he gave me his okay. So we dated and everything developed to what we are now. Married, House and a child on the way. So why does it bother me that he is over right now? Her 5 yr. old daughter is there and my niece as well. I feel as though there is a possibility for everything. Intimate relationships start off innocent. Next thing you know a mistake has been made and you cannot reverse the doing. I'm worried that his horn dog ways and a questionable past (on my part) is avoiding me to trust. My instincts are telling me to be on alert.
- I should not be trippin. Feel free to visit your female best friendsVote A
- You should put a stop to this. It's disrespectfulVote B
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Generally speaking this isn't a good idea and out of respect your wife shouldn't being do this. Women never put the shoe on the other foot. How would she like if you had some women with you at your house while she was at work.
However, if its someone that the both of you know and can trust fairly well then its not really an issue. Even still, You're kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. I would just keep and eye on it. If she is doing it too frequently, or is seemingly trying to hide or not tell you, then you should bring it up. The two girls also seem old enough to make basic observations. If things seems to start looking weird, ask them if they've observed anything, like the two of them kissing.0