As my question states. I have two amazing guys but one actually better then the other. I've only really had by and the second one I'm with now is not prince charming. But he's growing. We been dating for 8 months and. Everything just finally got better. But now there is this smart and handsome guy who is a year younger than my current boyfriend. He did everything earlier than my second boyfriend for example. Work and school. I do love my current boyfriend but most of the time when I say it I feel like I'm lying to myself. What should do. I know I'm "cheating" right now but I'm tired of always working hard. Now its whoever can make me happy wins. Survival of the Fittest. What should I do?
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First, eff all the haters bashing you. They've never had the opportunity to choose before so they're just bitter you have options.
Now for the advice. You're not a bad person for wanting a guy with ambition and chivalry. Every girl does. You're stuck on the inside of this love triangle so it's hard for you to see how this situation looks from the outside. From what I've seen your Boyfriend definitely has room for improvement but the other guy sounds too perfect. It sounds like you just don't know him well enough to see his flaws and you're enchanted with the idea of being with him because the grass looks greener on the other side.
You've shared many experiences, both intimate and affectionate, with your boyfriend so its natural for you to have strong feelings for him. Those feelings will act like a glue keeping you together even if you're two different puzzle pieces that don't make a perfect fit. However, you shouldn't let those feelings keep you from finding someone that does fit right. Think about your boyfriend and ask yourself if he's the one you could spend the rest of your life together with and keep you happy.
The biggest mistake any women can make about a man is thinking he'll change. If you have to force him to treat you like a princess when you're this young you can bet you'll still have to 5 years from now. Guys who are genuinely courteous don't act like that to make women happy. They do it because they know its the right thing to do. If he doesn't know its right to open your doors for you or bring home flowers just to see you smile then that's his bad. You shouldn't have to endure it just because some people think it's a ridiculous expectation for guys to be gentlemen.
That being said, just because he might not be a perfect gentlemen doesn't mean he doesn't have other traits worthy of affection. There are plenty of happy couples out there who share their lives together because they know what really matters is trust and happiness. If he's an honest man that will stay faithful and can make you happy everything else is really just fluff. Its just a matter of preference on your part with how fluffy you want your life.
If you break up with your boyfriend don't do it because there's a better guy, do it because your boyfriend isn't good enough for you. It's not selfish to want the best for yourself, just make sure you're giving as much as you want to get from someone. If, however, you decide to keep your boyfriend do it because of the qualities he possess and not the memories you've made with each other.
Dang, I wasn't expecting to write this much but your situation had a lot more going on that a simple yes or no couldn't fix.0