I can't say I'm the most experienced guy in the world when it comes to relationships, but I've had a few experiences with girls. Some of them, of course, where cases of friend zoning. I'm a romantic guy and at first, I though that the road to a girl's heart came through what seems natural: showing interest, complimenting her, and caring. Obviously that was a highway to the zone! So I started changing my tactics, and I'm proud to say that I haven't let my dignity slide since the last time I was friend zoned 3 years ago.
The thing is, I don't think I'm making any great progress with that. And I started realizing that I'm on the completely opposite end only recently when I met a girl through a friend. This guy friend of mine has something going with a girl, and she invited him along with one of his friends -who happened to be me- at her place, where there was a female friend of hers too. I really liked my 'blind date', but her personality made me question my tactics. She is really hard to flirt with, and I couldn't get much going aside a joke about how she looks like a girl starring in a show in my country and how we are both well-paid actors in soap operas. But I still like her and I don't want to give up so easily. So far, if the girl didn't respond at my first attempts at flirting, I gave it up, because I thought chasing a girl could make her think I'm her puppy dog and make me lose my dignity. On the other hand, I've heard stories of confident guys who weren't afraid to chase after a hard girl and finally got her. So I'm thinking that maybe I'm too tight and too proud, and that I should loosen up, but I don't know how to chase a girl the right way? So what do you think I should do specifically with this girl but also in general?
Specifically for her, I don't think we will go out again because my friend and his love interest - her friend - had some kind of a dispute, so my only hope so far is Facebook!
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A guy has to show enough interest without becoming desperate. Girls loved to be chased and they are always looking back to see if the guy is still there. If a guy runs ahead of them they will get tired of him and find another guy to play with. The secret is that the guy needs to disappear while the girl is looking forward.
POOF the guy is gone!
That way when they turn around to smile and laugh at the guy for chasing them he isn't there!
"OH MY GOD WHERE DID HE GO!? IS HE CHASING SOMEONE ELSE!?"
thats when the girl stops running and starts standing on her tippy toes looking for the guy. After enough time they will eventually send out a cry, "SQUAWK!" and hope he answers. Eventually, the girl will begin to graze in the meadow... that's when the guy sneaks back up behind her and BAM! the fun chase begins again.0