I chatted with him online for over 2 months, and found common and met. Since then we were in a relationship. He talked about marriage, and I was a virgin with him at that time. Now we’ve been together for 4 months, only met 6 or 7 times. Because of his shift work time and flight a lot, he always spent time on clubbing alone or with clients, doing drugs. (He worked most of time in my city. ) He always brags about his money and house and car, but when I hang out with him, we never go to a nice restaurant or buying any even a flower or small gift to me. I am not saying I am materialist, but I don’t know if he really loves me as he said. He said all the girls come to a guy for money, he would like to show his effort by spending time or blabla. And because we never come to each other’s real life. I talked to him about showing his love to me on the internet, and he said, there are lots of his clients there, he can’t put stuff like that on the internet, he won't put his personal life in his work. I am super confusing now, he looked like decent, and he’s a god person and always listen to his mom. But I really don’t know if he’s just fooling me around. Please help~ I don’t want any drama in my life again.
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Well, if you don't want anymore drama in your life, this guy needs to leave the scene.
How about you try this exercise. Pretend you didn't write this question yourself. Someone wrote it and you came across it. I want you to read it as if you are a complete stranger to it and ask yourself, what would you tell that person.
There's too much confusion, too many questions, too many insecurities, too much of everything. If you're wondering if this looks as bad to us as it does to you...yes, its bad. He is neither mentally or emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship right now...not when he spends so much of his time hanging out with friends drugging.
I think its time you move on and leave room open for someone whose going to give you everything you want.
I wish you luck in love