About 4 weeks ago I looked through my guys phone and found rude message to two other girls, he said it was just banter. After a few fights i decided I would give him the benefit of the doubt and have now moved into a running a pub I have just found out tonight that one of the girls he was sending the messages to works here! I asked him about it and he just got angry saying that it's not a problem and I've to stop being to insecure and either deal with it or fxxk off. He said why would he move me here if he was doing anything with her, my gut says he's up to something.
Is it just me or is there something going on ?
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first of all, why were you looking through his phone? did you have permission or were you snooping? if you were snooping, id say this relationship was already doomed even before you ran across these messages. trust, faith and fidelity are the cornerstones of any relationship. without any one of them, the entire structure is weakened, and it only takes a little nudge to bring the entire house down. now, as far as the 'rude' messages, it depends on what you mean by 'rude'. were they simply impolite? bad manners? or were they sexually suggestive, did they sound like what would be said between people who are intimate with each other. in case of the former, bad manners, its probably nothing. in the latter, sexually suggestive, whether any actual act has taken place or not, it doesn't bode well for the relationship. if a guy doesn't think about it, its very unlikely to happen. if he thinks about it, its possible. if he talks about it, it means he wants to do it, and there's a very short distance from talking about it and doing it. and you can guess what he uses for a ruler.0