Read OUR conversations . . . is my boyfriend busy or avoiding me?

I talk to my boyfriend on Skype as we can’t always see each other during the week. I can’t work out if he’s doing this on purpose or if he's generally just busy. I am starting to find it a little insulting and rude.

It has ONLY being happening for the past week, he never talks to me for MORE THAN one HOUR or so and then always has to tell me he's doing SOMETHING, things he could probably do any other time and just stay with me if he really wanted to.


These are the conversations (just the parts in which I feel like he's blowing me off):

[25/07/2012 15:51:22] Anya: Alex? Can we talk? LOVE you. xxxxxxxx

[25/07/2012 15:51:45] Alex: Sorry, can't. As I said, I'm going out in a bit. Xxxx

[30/07/2012 19:35:40] Anya: Alex can we talk tonight? xxxx

[30/07/2012 19:35:40] Alex: No, Anya - I'm not feeling too good right now. Sorry, maybe tomorrow xxx

[30/07/2012 19:57:14] Alex: Anya, I'm going to lay in bed

[30/07/2012 19:57:19] Alex: xxx

[31/07/2012 14:18:31] Alex: I'm going out today too actually - gotta get a membership card for the new gym that opened up recently and is practically next to my place. Xxx

[31/07/2012 14:35:29] Alex: Anya, I'm gonna go see my parents for a bit and then I'm going out. Xxxx

[28/07/2012 14:38:38] Anya: You're welcome lets face it you are better at the word association than me Alex! We can talk in a while, if that's okay with you. I love you! xxxxx

[28/07/2012 14:39:17] Alex: I'm gonna spend time with my family today, so I'm going soon! xxxx

[28/07/2012 14:44:25] Alex: See you later, Anya.

[29/07/2012 11:10:36] Alex: I think I'm gonna go and lay down for a bit before I go out with my friend. xxxx

[29/07/2012 11:12:21 Anya: okay, can we talk today? xxxx

[29/07/2012 11:15:41] Alex: I don't know when I'm gonna be home but yeah, if I return later on we'll talk. xxxx

[29/07/2012 11:16:01] Alex: I'm going now, Anya. Xxxx

[29/07/2012 20:03:54] Alex: I do fancy talking tonight but I doubt we'll be able to do so. xxxxx

[29/07/2012 20:04:45] Alex: I'm going to bed earlier tonight cause I wanna clean my room tomorrow morning before I leave for the cinema

[29/07/2012 20:55:52] Alex: Anya, I'm gonna shower and then I'm off to bed! xxxx

[29/07/2012 20:56:47 | Edited 20:57:07] Anya: Okay!

[29/07/2012 20:57:31] Alex: I guess that's goodnight even though it's only 9pm

[29/07/2012 20:57:36] Alex: I love you! Xxxx

[01/08/2012 11:15:02] Anya: Did you get your gym card?! Did you have to sign your name on it?! xxxxx

[01/08/2012 11:15:47] Alex: Yeah, I'm actually going to the gym in a bit


Most Helpful Girl

  • Just come out and ask him, are you blowing me off to do your 3million plans? Did he always use to be busy, or this just started happening out of the blue?


    • Just started happening out of the blue.We used to spend much more time talking on Skype, he always had time for me. xxx

    • then I think somethings up, how does a person become SO busy out of the blue.


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What Guys Said 1

  • Sounds busy but a lot of stuff he could be doing at other times, yeah. Ask him I guess. Tell him you think he's blowing you off, see how he reacts.

    I mean he could just be super busy or he could be making up excuses...


What Girls Said 1

  • He might actually be busy. It's tempting to multitask when you're chatting online, especially if you have important things to get done. Don't give too much of your attention to him while you're on chat- if he's going to be doing something else there's no reason you should devote your focus on him. Or if he says he's busy, don't continue the conversation and tell him to contact you when he has free time.