And what keeps your attention? What makes you like them vs just see them as a hook-up?
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One thing to realize about men and attraction is that sexual attraction and emotional attraction are more distinct and independent of each other than it usually is for women.
So generally, emotional attraction is going to be related strongly to personality, and sexual attraction to the body.
But both will be initially based on appearance.
-In the case of the overall attractive women, their body is usually healthy (outwardly, at least), and they have a more chill, positive energy. She gets excited about things and people. I wouldn't say perfect my any means, but more like she's glad to be human.
-In the case of the hookup, she has a good body (sexual value), but she has some sort of chip on her shoulder and a cloud looming over her head. Unimpressed and demanding. She has little emotional value, and therefore the men who sleep with her do so more for sex than a relationship.
I think this is why men are more likely to seek a quick fling. As I've mentioned at some point, emotional chemistry is about the same between men and women, but for women, sexual chemistry is more highly dependent on personal traits, whereas generally don't need emotional attraction for sexual attraction.
For girls, emotional attraction generally is a prerequisite for sexual action.
For guys, the two are more independent. There's less correlation. (Even through the combination of the two is great.)
We both are attracted to, say, 10% of people emotionally, but many women like only about the same number sexually, whereas guys like probably 50% sexually.2