Talking to a girl on a dating site, every time I ask her something to keep the conversation alive she responds with shorts one word answers. For example I asked, "Nice, how was it? I am planning a cruise to Grand Cayman and Cozumel this December. Have you ever tried scuba diving?" and all she replied was "Yes". So I asked where she is from and again, she gave a one word reply... what does that mean? This has been the conversation so far...
Me: Hi, how are you doing? My name is Shane. To be completely honest, I never know how to start off conversations on here but I am not afraid to take a shot. I see we have a few common interests and we are basically looking for something similar. Personally, I would eventually like a real relationship free of games and lies. But I do not want to rush. I think we could get along, what do you say we give it a shot?
Her: sorry meant to say hi
Me: Lol, it's fine. How are you doing tonight?
Me: That's good. So what is the most adventurous thing you have ever done?
Her: went to the Bahamas
Her: went to the Bahamas
Me: Nice, how was it? I am planning a cruise to Grand Cayman and Cozumel this December. Have you ever tried scuba diving?
Me: So where are you from?
Her: *** ****
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It could just be that she suffers from a deplorable lack of personality.
But honestly, dude, I think you're coming off WAY too strong. Asking her about the most adventurous thing she's done right off the bat? Talking about the cruise you're planning? Makes you sound like you're desperately trying to convince her that you're interesting, and that's a huge turn off.
And if that top paragraph was your opening "line", you need to stop that sh*t. A simple "Hey, my name's Shane, I was just looking at your profile, and I see that we have some similar interests. Care to chat for a bit?" Get rid of all that crap about what you're looking for, crap about relationships, games, lies, rushing. It sounds contrived. Keep it simple, and lay off the self-deprecation.
In conversation, you need to be asking simpler things. Start with asking her something basic about her life, and keep to that topic until you find something that you can relate to. Don't try to play sh*t up, immediately talking about adventures and big plans. That's just posturing, and nobody likes that. You can talk about those things, but you need to establish some rapport first.
And when you're talking, compliment her appearance. Let her know that you're attracted to her. Keep that simple, too, and don't be afraid to simply interrupt conversation with it. "By the way, you're very attractive, I think I forgot to mention that ;)"
Just tone things down a bit, or you'll keep scaring them off.1