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he's seeing someone else, and is peer oriented, I'm assuming by the way youa re typing you are in the UK, but I don't know... there its very common, esp middle calss guys to be very peer oriented. basically you have to compete for attachment with his peers- and believe it or not they DO influence men (indirectly) to cheat.
you can turn this around... but this is what you have to do. playing it cool won't WORK, (despite having angered feelings (let those show through!), don't let the weaker ones take over you now... being vulnerable is something you want when a man is comign towards you, but not at this stage! ) no blaming yourself or beating yourself up for nagging him, there is a reason why it happened!, or anything like that. Call him out on the cheating or eyeballing other women and outside factors creating a distance. this happened with me and my boyfriend of 8 years at teht ime. said he dindt wantt o be with me anymore, but was hiding the fact some girl was pursuing him. (and she knew about me too)
use authority figures or others he respects to reel him in too since right now, he has none for you. wheen he gets caught, comes to his senses, adn starts losing ground with this "roots" who is raising him up to feel cocky enough to leave you... he will regret it.
in the mean time...keep dating men until you have a real deal commitment like marriage or engagement.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE