So, I've been on a few dates here and there, but it never ends up going anywhere and I fear it may be because I'm so inexperienced. I've never been kissed, never had a boyfriend, don't curse, never had sex (and don't intend to until I'm married due to me being a Christian).
I get the feeling that because I'm 21 and haven't done a lot of things that people my age have already done, guys get the idea that I'm too much of a goodie goodie or prudish to even bother perusing. Which sucks, because I feel like they don't even try to get to really know me before writing me off.
It's not that I don't want to do certain things (Trust me, I REALLY DO haha). It's just that I have certain standards and beliefs that I feel are important when it comes to dating. For example, the last guy I dated wanted to eat me out after knowing him for exactly one week...Of course, I said no, it was too early for that. And he got frustrated and stopped talking to me. Is that normal/acceptable? If so, then yeah, maybe my standards are just way too high and I'll be alone forever. XD
I really see myself as just a lady with class...but I feel like guys see me more as a girl who never has fun under any circumstances, locks herself in her room with her bible, gets offended by anything and everything having to do with sex, and says prayers 24/7. Which is not accurate at all haha.
Any input on this? Thanks!
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Not a turn off at all! considering the rarity of that nowadays, it makes you all the more admirable for choosing to keep to your core values, don't change it! :). You aren't applying for a job, don't worry about it, most guys won't care about the experience you have. For many I think it'd be a turn on to be the first.
The trick is to find a guy who shared similar values to you, don't bother trying to pursue a guy who only wants you for sex, don't undercut yourself. At least you'll be able to understand their character and if they're worth being with in the long term if they're pushy with trying to get in your knickers, keep yoru standards. you should try to pursue a christian guy who'll be able to udnerstand you and support you.
seriously don't change! :D1