I had a guy tell me that I didn't call and text him enough. I thought that was odd because I didn't think guys liked clingy. And in reality...I let him do all the texting and calling. So...I started to text him twice a day...once like around lunch and once around night time. And it was about humorous stuff or I'd tell him I hoped he had a good day at work or whatever...nothing like obsessive clingy. He on the other hand called every single day. Then...our relationship eventually ended. He called me a five star clinger and a crazy b****. Um...? What the heck? I am a really independent person and to make it work I texted because he said he wanted that...now I'm the clinger? What is wrong with him?
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You don't sound so crazy to me. You're dealing with a break up here so beware of irrational responses from a young guy who may feel you done wronged him bad. All pretenses of objectivity frequently get tossed out the window at this stage. As long as "clingy" doesn't manifest itself as obsessive or invasive to the point of being co-dependent, it generally just indicates a strong enthusiasm from and for one's partner. And another thing, if said communication fails to involve eye contact or listening skills, there's hardly a chance of it ever reaching the clingy stage.
Texting as clingy behavior remains impossible while the delete tab waits at your finger tips.
It's natural to look back across the wreckage of a crashed relationship in the hopes of finding something shiny you can salvage for your memory museum, but it doesn't always work. Look out for bad "breaker upers." They turn vindictive, dwell on issues they can't possibly change, and live in the past, much to the consternation of friends and family who'd rather barf on a new pair of shoes than suffer another bout of all that pissing and moaning.3