This guy has been friendly towards me all year. I never thought anything of it since he's younger than me and I don't tend to date younger guys -- or recommend that they date me. I happened to go out with a guy his age the other day and suddenly he seemed very distraught. I had his full attention for three days. Finally today he comes up to me and asks me out. I laugh it off as a joke and nudge him away, but he's persistent. On my way out, he gives me his number and tells me to text him. When I finally do, he seems -- and actually admits that he is -- surprised. (Why in the world would you give a girl you've been flirting with for MONTHS your number if you're not going to want/expect to hear from her? It's confusing...)
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He was surprised because he likes you, but you were reluctant to go out with him, so he thought you probably weren't interested. He WANTED you to call, but resigned himself to believing that you probably never would, since you tried to dissuade him before. I'm not sure why this surprises you in any way.
A lot of guys really aren't used to women doing ANY pursuing of them, and so when one does, even just a phone call, it can be a bit strange, though it's still very desirable.
Try to imagine if someone came up to you and gave you $50,000 in cash. That never happens, right? So if someone did, I'm sure you'd love to have the money, but wouldn't it also weird you out a bit too, just because it was so unusual? That's exactly how he felt: excited, happy, but also a bit out of his element.
Girls are used to being pursued, but most guys aren't.1