So I'm pretty much crazy about this co-worker of mine, and I'm trying to get a sense of where she stands.
The first month, I thought she was okay, strange, whatever...and then she started growing on me, bigtime. We always had good chemistry, and finally I told her how I felt, and proposed a simple date.
She said she had a boyfriend. However, I think that was just an excuse, for whatever reason. On Chinese Valentine's Day, she went out with a girlfriend of hers, and on the social network we use (in China) - I've never seen any mention of her dude. Nonetheless, after this, I told her I respect her a lot, I hope she is happy, and I think she is a beautiful person.
Being that this girl is so irresistible to me, I've maintained a steady showering of praise and affection. Really simple, cutesy type of stuff, like a random note here and here. Basically telling her how beautiful and special she is. But not overwhelming at all. We don't hang out after work or anything. I've tried asking her for lunch/dinner a few times, but she always has something going on, and tells me to take a rain check.
I'm trying to get a sense of how she feels. Despite the fact she turned me down, she has remained warm to me. She thanks me whenever I give her a compliment. She visits me in my office every now and then to "check on my plants" (she took care of them for a month while I was away recently), or to give me some fruit or snacks or whatever. Otherwise that's about it.
I figure if she was 100% against the idea of dating me, she wouldn't be doing these things, or she'd ignore me outright. So what is my move from here? I think there may be a slight chance, or perhaps I should just give up for good?
Really taken with this girl...
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She has turned down all opportunities to go on a date with u. She doesn't like u0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE