Been dating this guy for awhile... on Monday we slept together for the first time (neither of us are virgins) - but we both Haven't had sex in about a year... he has never had a girlfriend. My question is: We spent all of Tuesday together and then I said I would come over today and he said he was busy with assignments and his away for the weekend... I want to have a relationship with this guy so I guess where do I go from here I will see him Sunday but do I contact him or wait for him to contact me? if he doesn't contact me should I contact him?
My dilemma is that he sucks at communicating but I don't want to be annoying and messaging him all the time. How could a girl go from dating (for a good 3 months but been kissing when out for over a year) to a relationship with someone who seems really fun and out going to settle down?
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Find out what he really wants.
What is he looking for? Someone to spend time with (no strings attached) or a relationship?
In order to really know the answer to your question, you have to ask him.
You cannot make someone want to involve themself if they have no means to. All you can do is find out if he wants the same thing.
I suggest the next time you two meet, display a reasonable amount of affection but do not have intercourse with him.
Wait until he contacts you for your upcoming date.
If he does not call, you call and ask , "Are we still on?"
To make yourself not seem desperate in this situation. You have to continue to show
your interest in him and allow him to show his. Meaning, do not call him all of the time or text. Let him do so has well. If someone is really interested in you, they will be able to spare a minute just to contact you (without you having to be the intiator all of the time)1