I have a son who is 15. He has a very close friend but not a girlfriend (yet). I am wondering how young teens are dating now? I have been told that 'group dates' are the in thing now. Is that the case? Do couples still go on dinner / catch a movie type of dates? These two are concentrating on being friends first which I am encouraging. Any suggestions?
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From what I am seeing, there is a whole lot of confusion going on these days in teens and young adults.
1. They are not group dating, they are hanging out in groups and then wondering if their "crush" likes them or just sees them as a friend.
2. They are calling someone of the opposite gender that they really like a friend and then getting hurt when their "friend" starts dating or talking about someone else. They are fearful of rejection so they act like a friend and hope the other person will seal the deal. Usually they end up angry and confused because the other person actually believed they were friends, not some sort of lead up to a relationship.
3. They "hang out" instead of dating, which if they do this at each others' homes, culminates in casual sex. Then, usually the girl, doesn't understand why casual sex doesn't lead to a relationship. Well, it doesn't.
4. Casual sex and no-strings sex is glamorized as the ultimate. It is cooler than cool to be able to have sex without feelings. Of course, it doesn't really work like that and one or the other catches feelings that are not returned.
Good old fashioned dating, where you made it clear that you liked the other person romantically and opposite gender friendships really were not that common because everyone knew the scoop, usually one or the other wants to get with their "friend", that is the way to go. No one likes rejection or having your interests not returned, but there is just no way to get around this, so better put it out there pretty quickly than go along pretending your friends or cool with casual sex.1