I used to so shy I wouldn't even talk or socialize, but over the past 4-5 years, I've worked on it and now I'm somewhat capable and realized that I can make people laugh, which has given me more confidence. I've also worked on my girl skills.
Anyway, I've asked out about 7 girls in my life and only gotten 2 yeses. In terms of looks and personality, it's been a broad spectrum. But I couldn't get beyond a first date for either one of them. And yet I see other guys just walk in and get the girl they want.
The worst part: now that I've been rejected so many times on the onset, I'm now automatically assuming that a girl I like won't be into me. It infected me with the date with second girl; I was excited for the date until I actually showed up for it and there was no flirty vibe at all, not like we had before, so basically I wrote it off 5 minutes in the date.
I also have found myself numb to emotions with girl. Maybe it's just me learning to close myself off and not invest too soon. Maybe it's something else.
Regardless, other guys can just walk in, flirt with a girl a bit, and get her. And me, I have to flirt with her a lot just to get her to even consider me and even that doesn't happen, they're just surprised when I ask them out. I mean, what do you expect me to do if I'm flirting and you're flirting back? I'm so discouraged that I just want to quit.
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most people don't get who they want on there first try , generally dating is pretty tough . I'd say your 2 yes to 5 no's isn't that bad . what I'd wonder about is why your 2 actual dates didn't lead anywhere . the girls must of not been as impressed is when your first asked them out or for some reason they weren't seeing a reason to date you .
it leads me to wonder if you need to work on speaking skills when around girls or something isn't going right when your around them. but of course without actaully being there when this date went down its impossible to know what went wrong .0
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