Asked this girl out because I liked her a lot and it seemed like she liked me. She didn't give me answer right away, which automatically lowered my expectations/interest. In fact, she got back to me on the day I had asked her out for, but since I'm no fool I had already filled up the spot. We ended up rescheduling a couple times and going out a month later. I thought there was a legitimate chance because she kept offering the different days she was free if me or her was busy some day.
Anyway, she arrived about 10 minutes late to the date. Normally I wouldn't care, but combining this with her behavior before I knew then that she didn't care all that much. As a result, the date itself was very mediocre; the whole time I felt she wasn't into it (didn't display the signs of attraction she had spent the previous several weeks showing) and as a result, I wasn't, either.
And then, at the end, while we were snacking, somehow, I don't know how we got to the topic, she talked about her ex for a minute and telling me how she used to love him and she was stupid. If nothing else was a red flag, this definitely was because it told me, if subconsciously, that she probably didn't feel like she could have those feelings for me, which is why she felt it was safe to tell me. And then she talked about her guy friends for a few minutes until my non-responsiveness caused her to change the subject.
After the date, to be honest, I felt disrespected. Maybe it wasn't a big deal she talked about the other guys. But if I combine everything from the point I had asked her out to the end, including how the vibe seemed a bit off, it seems to me she didn't care all that much, maybe doesn't even respect me that much. The only thing that kept me considering her was how she kept offering alternative days, which made me think she was interested.
I haven't talked to her in 2 weeks. Saw her four times in person during that span and we didn't even look at each other. I just feel kind of disrespected and want to spend more time finding girls who would be eager to hang with me.
To be fair to her she called me 5 minutes before the date and told me she was going to be a little late. Still, I'm looking at the whole picture.
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She could've been late by traffic, being busy, not finding something she needed, ... I'm sure she didn't talk about her ex on purpose to make you feel bad. If the topic came up, she didn't talk about him for half an hour, waiting for you to get annoyed with it. It came up, she shared, topic finished. Nothing about she couldn't have those feelings for you, otherwise she wouldn't go on this date. She might've been nervous?
She started on a bad note, that set your mood and then you're just looking for things that go with that set of mind. If she was on time and the rest was the same, I'm sure your thoughts of the date would've been different. She let you know she would be late. Don't be too hard on her.
Maybe she felt bad about the date, that it was something to do with her and she didn't have the guts to talk to you, the fact that you didn't talk to her was a sign for her that you weren't that into her.
Let her know how you felt about the date, if you wanna give her a second shot and maybe to arrange a new "first date"?0
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