I'm very good at getting numbers, but for some reason, first dates aren't leading to second dates, and so on... so I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I typically wait 2-3 days, call them, ask them out for dinner/activity, then call a couple days after the date. I feel like my conversations are fine/good on the dates, so I don't know what's going on...
What should I be doing? A couple other ideas I thought of are:
1) Waiting longer to call (5-7 days)
2) Waiting less time to call (next day)
3) Only texting to start. As in just text her sometime to find time for a lunch. And then after lunch, I can get the conversation leading towards studying and that we should study sometime together. Then if that goes well, I can ask for a date.
What else? What is the best way to go about it?
So girls, what can a guy do perfect on the first date to want you to go out again?
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If some guy were pursuing me, I guess I would appreciate it most this way:
He'd get my number. Text me later that day/the next day depending on when we met (obviously if we met 11pm on a Friday night it might seem a little desperate for him to text me immediately thereafter) saying something like "It was nice to meet you, "Jane." I hope we can see each other again soon." Exchange names again if you aren't absolutely sure it was made clear earlier.
Call her within two days I would guess, no more than three. Ask her out to lunch or something low key like coffee or drinks after work. The next day would not be too soon to call in my opinion, but I would not expect her to be free so soon.
After the first date, text her when you get home that you had a nice time and that you'd like to see her again. Something short and sweet that shows her you are interested in her. If you came in separate cars, I do not think it would be odd to add a "hope you got home safely!" but I would use that with some discretion. It might freak some women out.
Then, I guess the next step would be to call her again within 2-3 days and set up another date. Some women may never call back, life may have gotten in the way or they may not be interested. Either way, don't let it get you down. Dating kind of sucks =P
I try to stay away from texting games because they usually are just annoying to me, but some people may like that you just have to get a feel for each individual person and what you can and cannot handle when it comes to their emotional wants/needs.
A little back and forth is fine, just don't let the conversations go on for too long.Just allow the dates to progress and I would say that after 3-4 dates it has become a little more serious and you can text more back and forth.
I have a question for you, though. :) How are you getting all these numbers? In what situations are you in? It may be that the women are just giving them to you haphazardly and aren't truly interested in dating someone (no offense, I'm sure you are a cool guy).1