Question for all you boys: If you met a girl (that you thought was attractive) and wanted to sleep with her (no potential relationship in the future), would you take her out for a date (buy her dinner, see a movie etc.), drive her home, hold her hand in public? Would you do this ^^ if sleeping with her was your only intention and would you keep taking her out on dates if you do not want a relationship in the future?
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I can't speak for all guys, but I most likely wouldn't do this. Then again, I don't even seek FWB anyway. I guess I would feel guilty doing this, like I'm manipulating her into my bed.
Even "less moral" guys I still think would be a bit hard pressed to do this unless they were really that desperate to get laid and felt they had legitimate reasons to believe this will work, in a reasonable period of time.
They key is simply recognizing how much he enjoys or trying to do other things with you that don't involve sex. If getting him to spend time with you outside of the bedroom is like pulling teeth, then he probably doesn't really like you as a person, he just feels your dtf (down to f***). If he seems to enjoy doing even simple things with you like getting dinner, or watching a movie, then he most likely has more of a genuine interest in you. Even a guy trying to manipulate his way into your pants is going to squirm when asked to spend the kind of time only a boyfriend would. Like going on dinner dates. They might do it, but you'll be able to tell that they really don't want to be there.
Again, this is the irony of dating and the related female mindset. They guy who is more than willing to spend time with the girl (the one who is also interested in a relationship), typically appears to available. The girl gets freaked out by his availability since she's not used to a guy actually wanting to take her on dates and just spend time together. Instead, the girls gravitate to the guy who doesn't want to spend time with them and is "unavailable". These guys appear to have higher status since it seems like he values his time more than yours. In other words, since he's not making time for you, it tells the girl she's not that important ot him because he of high status compared to her. She's not worthy. This trait attracts women to men. Ironically what this leads to is girls falling for the guy who only wants to get in their pants because they mistake unavailability for attractiveness instead of rightfully pairing with someone who simply just isn't that into them.
This exact dynamic is why so many girls are walking around with the stereotype "Men are all jerks who just want to use me for sex and get into my pants", and men are walking around with the stereotype that "Women don't like nice guys and they put us all in the friend zone while dating nothing but jerks, and players.". These stereotypes exists because for all intensive purposes they are true. However, they are skewed by not representing the entire population. They only represent what we are attracted to and actually date. So turning it around, it would sound like this: girls naturally want to date guys who have no interest but to get in their pants, and guys naturally want to date girls who they can see themselves being friends with.2