So in dating, I've been a doormat. The girls I've dated either come from dysfunctional families or were abused in prior relationships. My dilemma is that I am the kind of guy they would want. I came from a good, stable family where I was taught to never hit a woman, to be faithful in a relationship, and to respect girls' sexuality.
I'm a compassionate guy, but these relationships have rubbed off on me. I know it's not their fault where they came from or that they were abused, but I don't know if I want to get into another relationship with a girl like that. Am I wrong for that? Is it selfish that I don't want to days troubled girls anymore?
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Well, I don't believe it's wrong to want to date someone without baggage because it's a lot easier, right? I just believe that everyone has their issues whether it be small or major. Of course the more baggage a person has the harder it will become especially if they have not dealt with it.
It seems like a d*** move to not want to be with a girl especially if she's a good person because she's been through something. You never know who you will be able to have a good relationship with. You may come from a good background and such but who knows how things will be later down the road. Maybe you'll go through something and want someone to stay there with you through it and not just walk away because it's easier.
Point is, relationships are hard...some more than others. You just have to work at it. When you find someone and you believe she is worth that effort it won't matter.
Putting in the same effort/love/emotion for everyone is exhausting but when you find the right girl you know that it doesn't really matter in the end. It's up to you if you don't want to deal with girls who have issues or not but I'd think it's better to value that person rather then see her as damaged. No one is perfect.0